It is not true. I love them both. There are two other brothers beside. How do I reach him. He won't take my calls, or even look at my e-mails. I've tried everything. do I just give up.? Do I wait on him now?
2006-11-15 15:00:38 · 10 answers · asked by BJ B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would wait Betty. Why try and kiss his butt if he is not open minded enough to hear your side of the story. Sounds like the old Smother Brother's routine, "Mom Always Liked You Best". But that was in jest and for good cash, this sounds like it is a very serious issue and your older son needs to realize that your love for each of them is the same but each one unique in it's own way. Best of luck and hopefully you can sort this out prior to the Christmas holidays and have a happy family over that time.
2006-11-15 15:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mom, you have some options, but giving up is not and should not be one of them. I come from a big family. There are five of us kids and both mom and dad had their favorites while we were growing up. Being the middle child, I always did my own thing and often felt as though I just didn't matter when it came to the emotional things in my life. Then one day, years later, out of the clear blue...I received this letter from my mother. It was the most heartfelt letter I'd ever received. She not only told me that she missed me, but she explained why she didn't meddle in my life as much as she did the other siblings. She told me that I was strong willed, stubborn and so independent that she was intimidated by my tenacity and determination to do things on my own. She told me how much she admired me as a women, how she wished she could be have the strength that I did to live my life in the manner that I do (she is very "old school") and then she told me that she wants to mend the bond she thought she broke over the years. My mother, for six short years was my best friend. We went on trips together, I was the one she counted on to plan the family get togethers, the first one she called when something was wrong or something really joyous happened. She was the first to hold all my children when they were born and the one I chose over my husband to bring one of my children into the world through emergency c-section. She even named him. Sadly, mom passed away exactly six years years ago. Your letter brings me great sorrow and great joy. Honey, take the initiative with your son. Write him a heartfelt letter. Not tomorrow, not next week...now. Life is short. We don't know what God has in store for us or how much time we have left. Years of distance had passed between me and my mother before I received that letter and in reading yours, I can't help but wonder what more we could have done if she had only written that letter earlier. Don't wait, don't put it off, you keep trying. When you think you've reached the end of your rope in reaching him...you try again. A mother's love is capable of reaching and doing the impossible...you know it...and I learned it first hand and will always carry it with me. You can do this and if you just think about it, you'll know in your heart, exactly what to write to reach him. I wish you both years of laughter and togetherness....it's what family is all about.
And thank you...your question could not have come at a better time for me.
2006-11-15 23:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up on your son! As a mother myself, I understand your problem. I have more than one child and they all tend to say that I favor one over the other. I do admit I have an unconscious tendency to favor my youngest. Maybe that is what he is seeing and just wants you to acknowledge it, and then try to work on your relationship with him from there. He will come around, just let him know that you are ready to try to resolve the issue.
2006-11-15 23:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by mumbles1373 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 31 yr old son. needs to start acting like a 31 yr old!!..Right now..he is acting like a 2 year old...honestly...I thought it was a typo of the age when i first read this.
let him have his temper tantrum, and be ready to give him a hug when he is done...(just like you did when he was 2)
2006-11-15 23:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to cool off. The harder you push, the further away he's going to try to be. He'll come around, just give hime some space.
2006-11-15 23:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for him. Iare his fears based on anything. I know it sound weird but sometimes mothers unknowlingly dote on the younger child. I know mine does. It could be human nature.
2006-11-15 23:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait on him. Send the birthday cards and etc, but he will have to come around on his own.
2006-11-15 23:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure he is 31? and not 3!
2006-11-15 23:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by an14341991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder than words! he will come round eventually, write him a letter and send it to him. i'm sure he misses his mum, it sounds as though he really needs you at the moment
2006-11-15 23:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait on him, hell be back...leave him alone....let him breath....
2006-11-15 23:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋