It seems like it's in a mother's nature to want to comfort her child, but could it be that some mothers go so far as to abuse their child just so they can comfort them? I was just wondering if any psychologists have thought about this? It seems like a logical explanation.
2006-11-15 14:41:15 · 13 answers · asked by GrnEyedGurl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I didn't mean to draw attention to themselves, I mean't that they really feel like they're comforting their child and the child and themself feel better.
2006-11-15 14:49:28 · update #1
I have never heard of that- but there is a mental illness where woman hurt children in order to bring attention of "poor mom" to themselves. It's called "munchausen by proxy".
For you people saying DUH... MBP is based on the mother getting attention- not as the poster is suggesting- the mother getting a "buzz or high" on comfortingher child. SO back off the bus.
2006-11-15 14:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you are talking about is not MBP. In my opinion, I think it would be pretty rare for a parent to actually believe that they are comforting their child through any form of abuse. Usually abuse occurs because of things such as stress, tension, mental illness, drug abuse, or it is "passed down" from the parents' own parents. Possibly a person with some extreme form of mental illness might think so. I'm not too sure that all mothers have the nature to want to comfort their children. Perhaps they were not socialized into it. I know I mostly disagreed with you, but it is an interesting idea and I may see if I can find anything on that anywhere. (I'll update my answer if I do.)
2006-11-15 20:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that would be the case with some but most do it because of frustration. There are many moms who are neurologically limited (depression, ADD, bipolar) and cannot access the appropriate reaction in their brains. They are thought of as the lazy mothers who let their kids do anything until they can't take it anymore and let them have it. This would also be an impulse problem. These women do have a conscience and will feel guilty which will lead to overcomforting the child. I hear so much criticism of these mothers but I wish there were better ways to help them instead.
2006-11-15 15:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,i think that these women need to go to councilling on how to be a mother.But first the authorities should be notified so they can do what 's right for the child.Remove the child from the home until the mother can be helped mentally and then if she does not get better,find suitable parents for the child so that she or he is not abused.That is just wrong.Children are so innocent and trusting in adults,only to be hurt by the one they love and trust.Especially a parent.So i believe that the parent needs phyciatiric help in not being so abusive and the child needs to be put with family who will love them and not use them for their own personal sickness.
2006-11-15 14:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on what type of abuse your talking about.........there is sexual abuse...physical abuse....variable abuse.....and baby blues where a mother kills her baby. Why a mother would do any of these things is a puzzle. The natural thing as a mother is to love and nurture them
If one is co-dependent they can just be over protective.
You bring you a good point.
I worked (volunteered) with kids of abuse and it really is sad
I wonder if there will ever be a logical explanation
2006-11-15 15:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in some cases it could be true that people abuse their children so they can then comfort them. I know that sometimes people feel guilty for going "overboard" and then comfort their children because they realize that they went to far. There are many sick and twisted individuals out there.
2006-11-15 15:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by traciesummers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in some cases it could be true that people abuse their children so they can then comfort them. I know that sometimes people feel guilty for going "overboard" and then comfort their children because they realize that they went to far. There are many sick and twisted individuals out there.
2006-11-15 14:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Becky R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, Munchausen by Proxy. They enjoy the sympathy they get, so they continue to harm their children. I don't believe all women have some built instinct to protect their children.
2006-11-15 14:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a form of mental/emotional illness. Some people are sick, and need help. If you know someone who does this, you need to get her help, and her children safe.
2006-11-15 16:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Design Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
munchausen biproxy. People abuse their kids by making them physically sick in order to gain attention because of how dedicated they are to their childrem
2006-11-15 14:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by autumnfire519 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋