Iv been with my boyfriend for two years,we see each other mostly every day(but dont live together).We go most places together(friends places,bbq's,pubs,clubs.. ect) we also have a great sex life,but he wont tell me that he loves me,i tried to talk to him about it and all he said was he doesnt see a problem with not saying it and basically evaided the conversation and i got nowhere!!Any idea's what i should do in this situation??is the L-O-V-E word really that important?
2006-11-15 14:38:41 · 15 answers · asked by nikii_bug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly not really. You should be able to sense and know a persons feelings and love for you through their actions and the way they treat you. Although i get where your coming from, and im a girl myself so I know that's a word we love to hear from our guys... but i'd rather a guy to show me he loves me with his actions rather than him say it and not mean it at all.
2006-11-15 14:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by awesome 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes saying i love you is important. If he has even a slight love for you after two years he should be able to say it. This guy sounds like he ether has a major commitment problem or is just using you for the sex. I think both could be true at the same time. If it dosent bother you maybe you don't love him or maybe you are in a symbiotic relationship both using one another for sex,companionship,friendship? If it does bother you call his bluff tell him how you feel. Say i feel like i am in a one sided relationship i love you and you don't love me and i cant go on like this.
2006-11-15 14:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by sucker4chicks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't say the "L" word, then he's probably not feeling the "L" word...
How long are you willing to date a guy that doesn't love you? Most couples start expressing that emotion to one another after a few months max...
If you are okay with the situation, that's fine...however if you love him, then I'd consider getting out before you get hurt worse...there's no point in staying in a one-sided relationship...
2006-11-15 14:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me LOVE is serious and just to say it and
not mean it is a waste of my time. The word
along with the actions will tell me for sure, so
take the word along with the actions before you
can say u are loved by a person. Maybe he is
not ready yet to make that committment as if
a man loves a woman not only will he say it
he will show her in such ways that she dreams
about him at nights.
2006-11-15 14:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he isn't sure of his feelings. There are peope I care about and would die for if it came to it, but do I love them? You have to decide if he wont say it because he doesn't really love you or if he isn't sure yet.
.....Oh, I think LOVE really should be said only when you really mean it. It isn't something to just throw out there when ever you find another fling. Today love isn't seen the way it should be (at least by most)!
If all else fails there is more than one guy in this world and definitly more than one who would be willing to care for you.
2006-11-15 14:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by chromecranium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand words lie, and 'I love you' is the player's most common lie, action speaks louder than words.
On the other hand, If he loved you he would at least say it when he is drunk or in a passionate moment. I've personally been guilty of being monogamous to someone who is only a friend to me.
2006-11-15 14:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 14:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not that big of a deal, until it's made into one...because he won't say it in a relationship that merits it, makes you wonder why!! but I don't really know what to do, considering you tried to talk to him about it, I guess just talk about other feelings and if he sounds like he loves you, just can't say the word, it's different then if he doesn't feel it...good luck!!
2006-11-15 14:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important for your boyfriend to express his feelings for you. Or could it be he is the type to not express himself? However, through your daily interactions with him, do you feel the love emanating from him towards you? If it really bothers you, then you should insist that he speaks to you about the subject of love as it is extremely important to you.
2006-11-15 14:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the word is used to much,,and most people dont really know the definition,,u can find it in the book of ecclesiastics,well actually the whole new testament gives the real meaning,,u know love is patience love is kind
2006-11-15 14:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋