I don't have a problem with being single. In fact I've been single for a while now. I've been told by my friend that the reason why I stay single is because I'm selfish and I don't want to share myself with anyone. I've never thought of it like that. Does anyone believe its true or can anyone relate to this?
2006-11-15 14:37:39 · 12 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was single for years and it was okay for a-
while until I met my true love then I did not want
to be single anymore. Love can change some-
from being single to being plural.
2006-11-15 14:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be very happy being single. I had heard at my church that God intends for some people to be single and I felt like I was one of them and was happy. I had freedom, I had family and friends and felt fine. I would hear coworkers and friends talk about their boyfriend or husband issues and be glad I didn't have that kind of drama to deal with. I never felt it was selfish, it was just how I chose to live my life.
Then I met a guy and became friends with him and really grew to care about him. So now I feel like I would like to have a boyfriend and have someone in my life and am not so sure I am meant to be single. I still recognize and appreciate all the good things about being single but now I also know the good things I'm missing by being single.
2006-11-15 14:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bounce back and forth. I like being single, but I also loved being married and in LTR.
I find myself in a yo-yo situation. I go months as single and dating, and then boom right into a LTR and go 1-8 years, but cant get married again.
I don't think I'm selfish, maybe just foolish, because if you can love someone for 1-8 years and your over say, 32 you shouldn't have a problem with getting married or not being "single"
I guess you should ask yourself how you feel overall in life. Sometimes its nice to be single, but there is nothing better than giving a foot rub to the one you love or getting a back massage, or just cuddling etc. etc.
2006-11-15 14:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like she's secretly jealous of you being single, but that's the oldest line in the book . Oh you're selfish , you don't want to share your life with anyone or have kids yada yada yada.
Just because every animal in Noah's ark went in two by two doesn't mean human beings are lesser thans because they choose to remain single.
There are a variety of reasons one chooses to stay single. Find some new friends who are single.
2006-11-15 14:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being single is selfish? *laughs* People should do what works best for them...be it single or in a relationship.
Sounds like your friend is jealous of you actually...I've nown people over the years that thought people who enjoyed being single, were weird...
Sometimes being single is only a choice in part...we may be open to having a partner, but haven't met anyone with whom there is a mutual desire to share that...so until that occurs, doesn't it make more sense to be happy and make life the best we can regardless?
This life is too short to be unhappy...or to put oursevles in a relationship just because others think we should...or consider us selfish if we do not...
2006-11-15 14:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 19 years old and i have never had a boyfriend....i blame ot on a small catholic school...anyway...i do like being single but then again i would love a boyfriend...but i am not single because i am selfish because i am not...i am just shy...and yes if you are too selfish then who is going to want to put up with you?
2006-11-15 14:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's selfish..
Most of my relationships have been a huge headache and i enjoy not having to deal with that honestly..
2006-11-15 14:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i can kinda relate. I think i am single cause i flirt a tons. i like to tease guys. try talking more to guys and flirt wit them.
2006-11-15 14:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ruee.beeh lovee:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a way to release that "selfishness" its call elovers wat it is is that u find a pen pal and u practice like hes ur boy freind ull go farthere and farther ull send pics theyll send back my msn is spazam1000@hotmail.com u can im me ill be willing to chat with anyone who has this problem
2006-11-15 14:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by spazam1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thts not true. You just seem like u are waiting for tht special someone. Nothing wrong with tht.
2006-11-15 14:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by Epidemic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋