Let's say you met a girl who wants to wait until marriage. You like being with her, have a lot in common, and want to be her boyfriend. She says she wants to wait, but you've had sex with other girls b/4 so its a hard situation. Would you agree and later try to change her mind to have sex with you? Would you stay in a relationship with her for more than 3 months? Would you cheat on her with other girls? Guys, how do you feel about sex until marriage????
2006-11-15 14:28:04 · 18 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, if its the gal i love - i will wait for years.
i actually waited 2 years for my x, and find out that she was cheating on me instead.
if its fair deal on both sides of relationship and there is commitment and sheer love - i would wait forever. sex is just a small part of relationship and it can wait, there are a lot of other things - which are more important in a relationship.
2006-11-15 14:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by i don know y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like if you can picture yourself spending 40+ years with this woman in marriage... wait. Wait Wait Wait. Don't potentially ruin something good or even great by disappointing her, or if she's a virgin, by possibly hurting her. Wait until marriage, that way, your relationship won't be all about the physical. We all know that the physical side is thrown out the window as your age increases. When you are 70 years old, and hopefully still married to this woman, your relationship will be about companionship not sex. Don't base a potentially life-long relationship on sex. Sex complicates unless both of you know it will not last and are just looking for some quick release.
2006-11-15 14:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A sin is only a sin in case you've faith that is. There aren't any problematical and quickly guidelines about sins. you should settle on for your self what's better for you and your destiny relationships. if you're only starting up college, then sure, I do imagine that is going to likely be a turn-off for most females if you're saying you want to attend til marriage to have sex. At 18,maximum females (and adult adult males) are not questioning about marriage. even as you may want to nicely be turning off females, you'd be turning off the incorrect females. If a lady is purely attracted to sex, she's likely not a lady you may want to be attracted to being with. If and once you locate the right female for you, she'll observe of inspite of you've faith in, and also you'll recognize even as that is sweet to have sex. There are some people/religions that trust that is inaccurate to even kiss formerly marriage. i imagine that it severe.you want to understand once you've compatibility with someone formerly you marry them. I honestly do not see something incorrect with having sex if and once you're in a serious, committed courting. yet you should make those judgements for your self. i'm a 30 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous married woman, btw.
2016-11-29 04:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completley agree with waiting until after you get married to have sex, however I once read a list in a book that said if you believed in the following things you are not ready to have sex if... and one of them clearly stated "You believe sex before marriage is wrong". It is completely up to you though. I would go with what you believe in because that is more important in sticking up for yourself and just goes to show that you are a very responsible person who knows how to make healthy and safe decisions. Good for you!
2006-11-15 14:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by leged56 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I guess if a person really love a girl, he wont mind to have relationship with her, even there's no sex involved. It all depend on the guy's determination on whether he can 'endure' it or not. Of coz, some may choose to be with the girl and not having sex (Which is rarely), and some may go outside to find other girls for sex too...
2006-11-15 14:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can only speak for myself. If a girl wants to initiate sex it is 1) very hot, and 2) intimidating.
2006-11-15 14:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by shawnzmojo102 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that I would have found a very honorable person and would feel lucky to be her boyfriend.
A person who feels that way (and wants to stick with it) is a rare gem indeed. I would respect her in the utmost and not ever want to try to change her mind about it because her decision tells me that she would be a person that would be faithful to the end with me.
(And yes, that is honestly how I feel.)
2006-11-15 14:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would totally be OK with it. Most guys would not want to marry a girl who has been around. Those girls are fun to date, but not for marriage. If you want to wait, wait. If the guy is right, he'll be happy to wait for you.
2006-11-15 14:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No matter how much this pisses people off, in my opinion it would be hard to commit myself to someone that refuses to explore something that's a very important factor in a happy marraige.
If one or both of you are not happy in bed, especially those first critical years, chances are that marraige will not last.
And as harsh as it sounds, you would never commit to a long term lease for a car without test driving it, would you? You almost have to look at it the same way.
2006-11-15 14:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
id do what everybody else does.........
jack off
simple
effective
NO complaing girls
and the specific girl of my choice
the only bad thing, its not the real thing
but i would never cheat on any girl
soooo, yeah, i go with the STRONG hand
2006-11-15 14:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋