girlfriend will not have sex if i use protection, what should i do?

Answer 1

Women are evil, evil creatures by nature. She may be trying to get you to get her pregnant, or she is seeking revenge on you for something and she wants to share the STD she has with you.


Find someone else.

Answer 2

Well, first of all this is really weird because usually the guy is the one that DOESN'T want protection during sex..... but first of all maybe you should ask if she's allergic to latex or something because some women are and are too embarrassed to say anything. I

f she's not allergic and you're worried about STD's or if your worried about her being your baby's mama in the near future.... then ask if she will come with you to clinic to get ALL the STD tests, including a PAP smear for her, and if they can- test for HPV for you. (most places can't test for HPV in men yet- but ask).

Also, while you're on the subject, ask her if she would start taking birth control if she doesn't want you to wear a condom during sex and if she complains about the pills just let her know there's a patch now that she can wear anywhere on her body. You guys can ask about it at the clinic together.

If she doesn't want to do any of these things and you really don't feel comfortable having sex with her without protection.... then I don't think you two should even have a relationship like that with each other. If she can't come to a middle ground on this, just think if you guys get married!!!

Here's a site that might help answer your question better or help you to find a clinic that the two of you can go to help you guys out:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org

Answer 3

Tell her you won't have sex . Ask her to go on the pill or use foam. Tell her you won't feel comfortable without any protection.Not that it has anything to do with STD's but that your not ready for a baby.Be honest and tell her why you use protection and if she can't accept your views and you 2 can't work something out then your relationship won't last or you'll have a baby and still your relationship won't last. Relationships require the two people to share their feelings and work things out so you can move on and the relationship can grow. Do you think your old enough to have sex and talk to your girlfriend about protection that probably should have been talked about before you two started having sex.Just let her know where you stand try to come to an agreement and then resume sexual activity.Good Luck :)

Answer 4

If you want to protect yourself by using a condom and having safe sex then good for you. That is an excellent decision and helps to prevent against the deadly AIDS disease. If your girlfriend wants to have non-safe sex then that is her fault not yours and you cannot be held liable for her poor thinking. It is time to dump her and move on. Sounds like you two were never meant for each other. That is OK though as their are many other fish in the sea. I wish you luck in resolving this conflict buddy and hope that you find a new girlfriend who loves you for who you are not by the decisions that you make.

Answer 5

i say if you guys are ready to have a baby go for it. if not, then tell her no protection no getting the hanky panky. im serious. dont do it . its probably one of the biggest things that could happen.if you think bout it if you guys ever break up its like you guys are still together, because wen u dont use protection babies come its not even a 100% sure with a condom you cant get preg. thats a big risk already, imagine without. hope this helps dude.

Answer 6

Don't have sex with her. Maybe she wants to try to get pregnant or something. Are you ready to be a father? If not, I wouldn't do it. Some girls are sneaky that way!! Or maybe it's because of a reaction to the kind of condom you use. Make her go on the pill. But then you have to make sure she takes it. That doesn't keep you from getting diseases either. Make sure she doesn't have anything. And make sure there isn't any kind of ulterior motive to her not wanting you using a condom. It could mean a lifetime of child support payments. Good luck!!

Answer 7

well there are 2 possile senarios:

1. she wont jump ya bones with protection, and wont do it period. then you can either stay with her and be full of raging man juice, leave her and find someone who will have sex with you, or cheat on her (but if you cheat dont let her find out)

2. she wont go for a romp in the sack with protection, but will without. then you know shes nasty because she doesn't have protected sex which is triflin, stay with her and risk catching something or an unwanted pregnancy, or leave her and have protected sex with someone else but the choice is yours

Answer 8

Well,

I think initially, you should ask her why, sit her down and have a talk. tell her, if you cant respect the decisions i make for my life, then i am no longer going to be able to respect you, And if she wont tell you, i would say, okay, if your not okay with protection, then your not okay with me.

I mean, after all, this is a VERY important factor in a relationship, and i think it should be a compromise, not just one person gets their way, and one has to suffer.

this simply is not fair to you, and you should stand up for yourself hun.

i personally think that she is either looking to have a kid, and doesn't want to get straight to the point and tell you,

OR

She just wants to be dirty,

either one is wrong,
and i hope this helps you get to the bottom of it!!

good luck,
and take care.

Answer 9

Rent a tape about STDs and one about unplanned pregnancy's from the library or look up some web sites on both issues with her because clearly she is not educated on them. Why is she doing this anyway what is her reason? If this does not work get a new girl.

Answer 10

Figure out why, and try to explain why protection is essential. If she doesn't go for it, don't have sex. Firstly, you don't want to have a baby, and secondly, if she doesn't respect your very valid wish to use protection, then she's not worth it.

Answer 11

Gee, I wonder how many unwrapped packages this babe has had delivered? You might want to wonder about that as well. I would be very wary of a woman that doesn't want you to protect yourself, and doesn't care about protecting herself. Is she worth dying for??