I just saw my sis making out with my bf! When I confronted him he said " it is not what it looks like ' he said that she did it and that he loves me! But my sis was like u are going out with her?? and I was like ya and so now he has to decide who to go out with so ya AHHHHHH!!!
2006-11-15 13:46:56 · 25 answers · asked by rootbeer_girl130 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry that happened to you. That had to be both insulting and hurtful, and you probably feel betrayed. Understandable.
Your sister probably has some sibling-jealousy issues, in which she needs to do things to "one-up" you in some way. Her methods lack loyalty and are extremely spiteful and underhanded.
Your boyfriend has demonstrated his loyalty (or lackthereof) and his lack of integirty. Why is he worth the time of day at this point? He has shown you his true colors (those don't change) and it would be pointless and self-defeating to make excuses for him.
People's behavior is the biggest "tell" about how they feel about you. There words don't mean much if they don't match the behavior.
You would be ill-advised to waste any more time on this guy. tell your sister that she can have him, that you can do better. Remind her that since he did what he did, he is likely to do it again, to her.
Why would you sit around and wait for him to choose? Wht would you sit there and wait for ANY guy to decide what YOU are going to do with YOUR life? You have it all bakwards.....
In the animal kingdom, it is the females who ultimately choose who will be their mates. The males compete with pther males to be chosen. Women are always the choosers, even if guys try to act otherwise. Men secretly know this, which is why they overcompensate by attempting to dominate women.
His behavior does not match his words. His ego and need to feel attractive and saught after trumps his integirty and loyalty to you. You will never be able to change that about him, so don't waste any more time on him.
There are so many guys out there that would be grateful that you give them the time of day, that you would give them yout time and attention, and feel priveleged to be with you. They are just waiting there for you to notice them.
Do not overlook a guy because of his physical appearance, social status, or athletic ability. You may limit yourself from finding potential friends and loves if you judge people with superficial standards. Remember, beauty fades and dumb is forever.
Get back at him by not letting this destroy you. Get back at him by thanking him for showing you what type of guys to avoid in the future, thank him for the experience, and thank him for teaching you more about yourself (what you wil and will not accept from someone). improve your life without him in it.
Do not carry baggage from this. Drop it off and do not let this make you suspicious and distrustful of all guys in the future. That would not be fair to all the guys who are not like him.
Good luck and take care~
2006-11-15 14:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! that's really hurts. Your boyfriend is a deceitful little person and he doesn't deserve a girlfriend if he's gonna make out w/ their sister. Don't let him decide. Its sounds like you're not in love with him so end it while you can. And encourage your sister to not give him the time of day. Look at what he's done to you! Who knows what he could do to her. Sisters are forever. Boys are whatever. ;-)
2006-11-15 13:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did this to you with your own flesh and blood, he will do it again, you can't trust this guy so dump him, you're actually too good for either of them.
Your sister is a waste of space and please, her little innocent act. Spare me. She knew you guys were together, slap her silly.
He has to decide? No honey, YOU DECIDE. Seriously, you have to dump him. Once he's out of your lives, you can then start the healing process with your Sister.
2006-11-16 09:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of BREATH! Take a deep breath. Then ask yourself one question: Which one is more important to you, Family or guys? I hope your answer is family. If it is, tell your bf that family is important to you and that you aren't going to let him choose. Be the bigger person and tell him that if he really wants one of you than he should choose your sister as you wont put your family thru that kind of heart ache.
On another note, an bf that kisses another girl let a lone your sister, isn't worth your time. There are plenty more fish in the sea that wont even think about hearting you like that. Move on, or as I like to say "Next"!
On another note, an bf that kisses another girl let a lone your sister, isn't worth your time. There are planty more fish in the sea that wont even think about hearting you like that. Move on, or as I like to say "Next"!
2006-11-15 13:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by purpleshopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you even want him cause if he cross the line then he has no respect for him self an none for you or your sister and he has to decide who He wants to go out with there is no answer for that cause he would had hit the curb so hard that he would have left skid marks he is not worth it run as fast as you can from him good luck
2006-11-15 13:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to dump him and keep your sis away from your men cuz if he messes with your family like that then he will mess with anybody.
2006-11-15 13:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually going to give him the choice of who he wants to go out with after making out with your sister? He needs to go. Dont be a punk. And your sister is lying, beat her ***.
2006-11-15 13:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Cody B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should kick your sisters *** and dump your bf. find a man who won't cheat on you with your sis
2006-11-15 13:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Godz_ANGEL*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the loser right now. I would thats just gross its like your sis is kissing u thriugh him. Thats just sick. U deserve better than that.
2006-11-15 13:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am very sorry about that! You need to break up with him right now. He is playing you both, and he was cheating on you no matter what he says.
2006-11-15 13:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by kEnZiE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋