Ok long story short. The first guy I met in Feb. we dated for 2 wks and then he was shipped of to Iraq. We became very very close and communicated the entire time. We even arranged for a wedding once he arrived home. While he was In Iraq I found out he had cheated on me right before he shipped out. So once I found that out we took a break from one another. While on this break I started dating another guy we have grown very close and I feel like I am falling for him. Now the old bf is in town and is wanting to patch things up. I am very torn and I know this is odd of me to ask strangers but I honestly just need some outside help. They both are great guys but I just don't wanna hurt anyone! HELP PLZ!
2006-11-15 13:44:09 · 9 answers · asked by lashae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go back to the cheater no matter how nice he is or great. Go for the guy u are daiting and falling for trust me its worth it in the end.
2006-11-15 13:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and date them both, after all he was the one who screwed up...and could repeat his actions again!!!!
You need time and space to get a better handle about who is the better partner for you, and I'm sure they both need the same to be sure about you.
The last thing you would want to do is spontaneously pick one of them to marry, only to find yourself in a divorce court within a years time. My husband had a colorful past with 4 ex-wives and a package of new girls he was dating before me, I chose to give it some time and when we were sure of each other I still chose the 5yr plan, which was to live with him for 5yrs then maybe I'd consider marriage. As it turned out we did marry 5yrs and 2 kids later which lasted for 26yrs in total.
Hope this helps you....Good Luck!!!!!
2006-11-15 22:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moved on from the first boyfriend. Don't try to go back in time. It very rarely works. He cheated on you, you found out, and ended it. Don't start it again.
2006-11-15 21:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once they cheat you can never really trust them again, chances are he will cheat again, but the question is can you really trust him enough again to give him another chance? the time he did will always be in your head and you will always wonder whear he is and what he is doing if hes not with you. id give this other guy a chance. good luck tho..
2006-11-15 21:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE QUESTION IS WHY R U EVEN COSIDERING THIS IRAQ GUY AGAIN? HE CHEATED ON U!!! STICK WIT IS NEW GUY. HE HASN'T DONE ANYTHING FOR U NOT TO TRUST HER, HAS HE? BUT IN THE END ONLY U CAN FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
2006-11-15 21:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by aquablueberrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say lose the first guy. You want someone who will be faithful to you, NO MATTER WHAT!! Give the new guy a shot and see what happens.
2006-11-15 21:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time can tell with the prob... the current guy sounds like your type... give the other guy your friendship.. it will tell him that you don't hate him too much but don't love him anymore... it tells him you have moved on to better and greater things.... good luck
2006-11-15 21:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheat always a cheat,,and why spare his feelings he hurt u didnt he?,,go with number2
2006-11-15 21:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by native,pride 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm cheater.... ya think?
2006-11-15 22:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by G T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋