My girlfriend just got on the pill a few months ago and since then she's never "in the mood" anymore. It's driving me crazy and makes me feel like the problem is with me. Which I dont know I'm just guessing it could be the pills. I'm getting action about once a week and even then she just doesn't seem that into it.
Is there anything I can do? I mean usually she won't even give me a chance to get her in the mood.
2006-11-15 13:41:40 · 19 answers · asked by Mr. X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are many different brands and types of contraceptive pill, and your girlfriend should try switching to a different one. It's not too uncommon for someone to have a "bad reaction" to one type of pill, and that reaction often takes the form of a loss of sex-drive.
2006-11-15 13:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she really stressed out? I'm graduating soon and the pressure of trying to find a job is so much, I haven't given my guy all that he deserves lately, either. It may be the pill, some studies have shown loose ties with lack of sex drive and the pill. Ask her about it, too- has she noticed the lack? Try and get her to relax, spend a lot of time letting her unwind, then try to gently lead into it. If she hasn't noticed her lack of drive, she might very well be too stressed out to care about sex. If she has noticed and is also concerned, do the same thing but let her know that (and this has been studied and shown) that the more she has sex the more she'll start to want it, and if she finds herself in the mood but sort of lacking your manhood (if you're at work or whatever) it's ok to help herself out there. That all increases sex drive, and that's healthy. If she finds it seems to be the pill, she can ask her doctor about switching to something different.
2006-11-15 13:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Abcdefg 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babe, this is completely normal. the pill can cause a lack in her sexual activity. if this bothers her also than she should talk to her doctore. She could be on a high dosage which helps her not get pregnsnt. I know this because I am on the pill but a light dosage which does not affect me sexuality. I would support her on this issue and discuss how you feel. It sounds to me the sx is the only thing you re worrying about and you do not want her to feel that way either. Another reason could be stress, talk to her and see if something is bothering her. When I had college finals my boyfriends hated it because I was so stressed and worrying about papers and exams, he didn't get anything for over two weeks, we made up after that! But what I'm explaining to you is, she may be going through something or it could be the birth control. if she is your girlfriend communicate with her, you never know, maybe she is going through something. I hope this helped. God bless.
2006-11-15 14:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This definately has to do with the pills but to ensure that there is nothing else weighing on her mind, sit her down and let her know how you feel. Approach the topic carefully so you don't make it all about sex. If you have noticed anything else that has changed since she's been on the pill, bring those up and then in the middle, tell her you feel like she doesn't want to have sex with you anymore and when you do, you feel she's doing it out of "duty" or something to that effect. Just be honest with her and see if there is anything you can do to morrally support her. Afterall, sex starts outside the bedroom!!!
2006-11-15 14:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the pills, do doubt, especially if she is on Depo-Provera.
Do get her in the mood, just start with a hug and a kiss. Just constantly touch her and make sure she knows is appreciated. If there is still a problem, bring it up to her. She may not even notice that she is acting this way.
2006-11-15 14:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by diva_m3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she may have needed the 'risk' to excite her. How about trying a 'safe' public place that may do the trick or at least give you an idea if that is actually the reason for the change.
2006-11-15 13:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things to slyly get her in the mood like make her want you subtly. You can do something extra sweet or special for her. Write her a poem...or whatever she really enjoys, but let it be obvious that its all about her. She'll start to desire you for no reason...you'll see. It works with me all the time. My man starts doing great things for me and I'm nuts and ready to jump his bones. ...that's actually true for many women and they many not be conscious of it.
2006-11-15 13:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you try hard enough to get her in the mood, you will get it. We woman want it but just dont know it sometimes. Find the thing that gets her everytime. IT'S THERE.
2006-11-15 13:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Wonderer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can we do, dude? If she's not in the mood, she's not in the mood. Is it serious? Cuz if it is, then you should just go out and do romantic stuff.
2006-11-15 14:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, there is nothing you can do. You can't fix this problem, it is a girl thing. Her hormones are going crazy and she doesn't even know what to do. So my best bet is to learn to live with it, she will eventually learn to control it and things will get better.
2006-11-15 13:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋