he's asked me out twice and i said yes the second time. the first time i was very cautois the first time he asked. my parents won't let me date till i'm 16 and neither will his, but he isquite desperate! he even asked me to homecoming! but since i'm only in 8th grade i'm under the grade to go. we're both 14. my family loves him and he doesn't think that they love him. he told me once that he loved me more than is fam. please, i need major help on what to do!!!!
2006-11-15 13:38:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for people who think i am spoiled, heres the truth: i have to pay with my own money do go do stuff, i've never known my birth dad, i had a rough night last night.please don't critisize me because i don't take that crap very well. i am not in the least bit spoiled.
did i mention that he askd me to go to homecoming but i couldn't go cause i'm only in 8th grade (got held back in 3rd)!!!!he's probably gonna ask me to prom and i don't know what my parents will say. i've known him for a year and it seems like my parents just don't trust me to do anything anymore around anyone. i need someone to talk to.
e-mail address:kjkibbe@yahoo.com
2006-11-16 05:30:19 · update #1
First, you don't want to date someone who claims they love you more than their family. That means they have no sense of priority. But considering you are both 14 you can probably overlook that.
As for the dating age, there really is nothing you can do. I have 2 girls and I would never limit their dating ages. But that's me. And if you try to go behind their back they won't trust you and you'll definitely regret it. All you can do is be honest and gain their trust. Make them know you are responsible and hopefully they will let dow on the age restriction.
You might even be able to bring it up to them. Ask them why they don't think you are responsible enough to date and have them suggest ways for you to show them you are. It sounds restarded, I know, but just bringing up that conversation is going to let them know your are adult enough to discuss concerns like that with them.
2006-11-15 13:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by asoobee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety, im not going to be an old fart because im 23, i remember being your age, i have kids of my own now and although i can relate with what you are feeling, i can also now as a woman relate to your parents. Sometimes parents are a drag, and being 14 totally sucks sometimes, your not a little girl anymore but your not grown up yet as much as you want to be. Its a gray area in between and can be really s*itty at times. Listen, This is my suggestion..i know you like this boy and he likes you. I suggest you sit your parents down and explain how you feel, and ask them why they feel the way they do. Honey, i was pregnant at 17 and i didnt know it was unhealthy for me and my child until recently. Your parents love you and want you to be safe and sometimes its hard to let their little girl grow up. Its very hard for parents to see you interested in guys, so try and understand where they are comming from. In the meantime all i can say is to talk to them and earn their trust and maybe they will let you go to the dance with him, but to be mature enough to date is something YOU need to prove, otherwise you have to respect their position no matter how crappy it is for you. I know, i have been there.
2006-11-15 13:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by fotojunkie7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents, they say how things will be done PERIOD! The world has nothing to say about it!
Your problem is, they have not disciplined you and they have let you have your way, instead of raising you correctly.
That means RESPECT, responsibility, and supporting the family.
Who is feeding your ungrateful butt? Who paid for the clothes on you back and in your closet? Where does the money come from that you use to buy things? Who is paying for the room where you sleep? How often have you filled up the refrigerator from which you help yourself when you want to.
Where did you get the computer that you used to ask your question? And, for all of this, what have you offered/done for repayment?
The only thing your questions shows is that you are a spoiled, selfish, immature child that is in profound need of strong discipline!
2006-11-15 13:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, heres how i've got been given surpassed that with MY dad resembling united stateshe has a temper yet my dad is extremely stressful to pass to with stuff like that i propose it feels like im bothering him each time i pass and ask if i'm able to do stuff with my bf. yet all u can do is supply him motives to believe u a million. if his family members is there at a "family members cook dinner out" dont u think of ull b supervised? 2. if u havent dont something to injury his believe in the direction of u like doin stuff with previous, or maybe ur bf now then u have no longer something to agonize approximately ceremony? ceremony so carry that as much as him and that i'm hoping u can pass!!! it feels like ALOT of exciting lol
2016-10-04 00:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're both still so young...
It's hard when the folks dont want you to go out yet...(Trust me I know...)
Show him that your family loves him, go to homecomming with him, and just have fun.
You two can be a couple without being alone all the time...
Try group dating and having family events.
And dont rush hun, you have PLENTY of time to do a ton of stuff...
Good luck! I hoped I helped! ^_^
2006-11-15 13:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by La Reina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents about it. ask them why and try and see their point of veiw. try and discuss your too. they are just a little nervious about letting go of their daughter. just take your time find a good moment for everyone like at dinner and bring up your topic and try and find a way to comprimise so you all are happy. it is good to be open with your parents it will help in your future.
2006-11-15 13:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur parents are rite..u guys are way to young to be left alone...i dont evn think u should be allowed to date. If u guys are soulmates--as u seem to believe then staying very close friends until you can date shouldnt be a problem. you dont need to be alone to talk and fall in love with eachother..which frankily i dont think u are capable of yet.
2006-11-15 13:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is 14, and under care of their parents, they should obey their parents. Trust me, they know better.
2006-11-15 13:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by rollodecriente 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date him with ur family together for quite some time. To show your family got trust on him.
2006-11-15 13:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing left, just grow up. You don't see what your parents are worry about. You just want and want to change them. Talk to them to get more privileges - it takes time.
2006-11-15 13:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋