i'm just wondering what type of mind set thye have? and why alot of them think in their heads that its okay and somewhat normal. but they also tell you they love you and want to be with you forever and get married. and also why the women in those relationships are so hooked on them and love them? theres gotta be anserws. for example you say something to your boyfriend that he doesnt like and there was nothing wrong with what you said, he slaps your or gives you a light shove or gets in your face...why? are they crazy? please somebody tell me thats not normal....and why are they emotionally abusive as well. like they tell you your fat, ugly, your lucky u have me, and **** like that.....anybody?
2006-11-15 13:21:23 · 24 answers · asked by seximamii17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anger issues, control issues and cowardliness...
2006-11-18 00:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Juliette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who slap their g/f or wives, abuse them emotionally,tell them they are fat and ugly that nobody else would want them are just saying and acting upon what they know to be true about themselves. If a man hits a woman enough and tells her how fat,ugly,and stupid he wants her to believe she is, is only trying to make her so weak she has to stay with him. The longer and more he controls her the bigger and stronger he feels. This empowers him. He does not know how to feel like a man unless he is controlling someone he considers weaker.
What is sad and so delusional on both the man and woman's part is:
1--Abuse and control does not make you strong, it only enhances your weaknesses.
2--There is an incredible strength in a woman who can live through that. They just do not recognize it.
A woman who stays with a man who is abusive is scared. Many times you will find an abused wife was controlled as a child. Control=love
A woman who spends her life under control and abuse like this does not know how to live any other way.
The most upsetting thing is an abused woman believes she deserves abuse. That nobody can love her. There is nothing about her that should be loved. Without her abuser she becomes invisible and obsolete as a human being. What she does not realize is that leaving the abuser is empowering. She does not need hin, she is loveable. SHE CAN BE LOVED AND IS BEAUTIFUL.
It is hard to leave, I know, but I did it. I am happy, I have a husband who loves me. He thinks I am hot........I walked out of the hospital from having his son and he though I looked good. Ok....that is just twisted, but still he loves me.
Even if I were fat and looked my age he would still love me and think I'm hot.
My ex-husband....ok a couple stray cats hang out because he feeds them. He is
like that lady on the sipmsons with all the cats. At least he is not alone. God knows his children want little to do with him.
2006-11-15 14:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by hiscinders 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only cowards hit women! No matter what her character is or how rotten her mouth! Hitting is never justified unless it will stop death!
The male can always leave! There are always, at lest two choices.
In the case of the female, LEAVE any person that puts a hand on you! No one hurts the one the love or care about!
If you stay in such a situation, then you are a dummy!
Where to go, join the Air Force or the Army, you will have a place to stay, get paid, travel and be way from all that crap!
Get OUT, away from any one that abuse you.
2006-11-15 13:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters you need to be so strong and leave him… seriously you must know that’s what needs to be done !
To answer you question WHY? I’ve done some reading on this issue and I believe it stems from the way they were
brought up.. If they were taught when your naughty they would be smacked/hit/abused.. They are bred to believe when
someone does something “naughty” or something they don’t like they will physically/mentally/verbally abuse them
as that seems to be normal to them…”in bred”
Then the next day you get the “im sorry” or “I love you” I think their morals kick in and they realise what they have
done… although they will do it again.. After all they have been part of this cycle for a long time, face it..
it’s all your decision and your responsible for your happiness.. Don’t rely on anyone for that… leave him!
2006-11-15 14:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by justagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of men do it because they saw their father's do it and don't realize that they can break the chain of violence...and while we are on the subject it's not only men who abuse women, women abuse men as well. It is usually about how they were raised, back in the 40s and 50s it was quite common for a man to beat up his wife, it was a "sign of manhood" no one thought anything of it, the man was simply keeping his wife "in line". Since the advent of the women's movement it is no longer "allowed" and the law comes down on men who beat up their spouses/partners. Back in the 40s and 50s though the law would not get involved unless it was in divorce court and then the wife had to proove beyond all doubt that her husband WAS abusive and would have to explain WHY if he was so abuseive did she stick with him....Nowadays abuse is one of the major factors for divorce, even emotional abuse.
2006-11-15 14:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do men hit woman 1 cause he is a jerk 2. cause he seen his father hit his mother 3. he can't stand to be wrong when she is right 4. he mad cause his friends is always asking about her 5. she knows more than him 6. insecurity the list can go on good luck
2006-11-15 13:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 14:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ladies should be respect and is a rule that is originated in Asia(eastern Asia). Hitting a women is the lowest cowardly act and will not be tolerated. It disgusted me to see that in the news and movies. Treat women even though you don't get along with respect and later you'll realize why.
2006-11-15 13:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Justinfire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter...no man, under A-N-Y circumstances can EVER hit a female. I dont care what happens, really I dont, I dont sympathize for men that hurt women or anything. Violence in the whole just doesnt make sense to me and is never justifyable.
2006-11-15 13:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares "why"?
If you're with a guy like that, and you stay with him... you're outta your mind.
I'm a guy, and I've never said anything like that to a woman. And I sure as hell haven't hit or shoved a woman. I don't disrespect women like that, I don't disrespect myself like that.
The fact is that most of the men I know don't treat others like that... men OR women!
You stay with that guy or anyone like him, then he's only part of your problem. Your biggest challenge is going to be respecting yourself enough to expect and demand better.
And ya know... it wouldn't take much to be better than the kind of guy you're talking about!
2006-11-15 13:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys are not all abusive thank god... if you have one that is dump him and find a nice guy... he belittles you so that you feel like you cannot get anyone else and will stay with him...you have to be strong enough to give him the boot and if you fear his reaction then have a friend with you when you boot him but make sure to get him out of your life
2006-11-15 13:27:11 · answer #11 · answered by hda77137 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋