As a parent of a teenager, it seems the older he gets, I find parenting to be a painful experience. As he's gotten older he wants to spend less and less w/me, and to be quite honest, sometimes he's just downright mean. I know that this is something that comes in teenage years (we were all one at one time). I guess now it's alot easier to understand what my parents went through to raise their family!!! Sometimes its just so hard to heart wrenching to sit back , and have to watch him struggle w/ 'finding himself'. I guess as a parent, the last thing anyone wants to do is see their children hurt or troubled. Does anyone else out there have similar feelings?
2006-11-15 13:18:34 · 7 answers · asked by vaasam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think every parent thinks that at some point. There is an old saying" when their young they step on your toes, and when they grow up they step on your heart" hang in there this two shall pass. I still hate to see my kids struggle or have they heart broken and they (4) are all in there 40's Parenthood is nevering ending.
2006-11-15 14:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom has expressed that she feels this way in dealing with my 15v year old brother. My son is only 6 now so he still loves me to death. But my mother often calls me crying because she is at her wits end and doesn't know what to do with him or how to get through to him. I know my brother loves my mom dearly because I talk to him about it. But I think as a boy he is just trying to find himself and it's difficult for a teenage boy. It will take a little time but he will come around and things will get better for you guys. Try to give him space, hard I know, and be as understanding as possible without letting go of being a parent to him. Good luck!
2006-11-15 13:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four children. Threee girls and one boy. Yes it is painfull. But not always. They seem to do something just out of the blue that makes you proud and all else is forgotten. If you treat your teen as an adult, that is good, but being playful like children is good to and strengthens the bound. Hang in there, you will make it. We did.
Mine are now 20, 18, 15, and 11. The boy is 18 and getting out into the real world has changed him. He is more like an adult now. A good adult.
2006-11-15 13:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by Chubbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 small kids under the age of 9, and a set of 2 year old twins in that group. As of now, my kids are small and I haven't experienced the teen years with them yet. But even right now, they are very hard-headed and stubborn, and I am not looking forward to them being teens. They are like this depite everything I have tried to do, so yes, in that respect, parenting is painful, my kids have gave me many a headaches as I ponder what to do next to get them to listen!
2006-11-16 19:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Nyema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son who will be 3 going on 30, but I can relate to your situation. My aunt is going through the same thing with her son now 14, he is doing the same thing as your son, but worst. I am not trying to scare you, but giving him time and space is not a bad idea, but keep your eyes open ok. right now to work this out for you, let him come to you, do not look you are trying to be too involve in his life you do that he'll push you away. Every now and then ask him to join you in an activity you know he'll like. It's more to say, and we can write a manual about it , but take things slow ok.
2006-11-15 16:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Roslyn J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy to say that I cannot sympathize with you. My teen was a gem, but I demanded no less. I have friends who are going through what you talk of and they literally do not like their own kids. I couldn't imagine disliking my child. You are NOT alone, teens need time alone and with their friends but if you suspect anything bad then you must stop at nothing to come between them and that which is bad. It is your obligation !!
Good Luck on getting through these difficult years!
: )
2006-11-15 13:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not there yet with teens, but raising children is the hardest job there is!!! It's your life's work when they are grown...and the older they get the less they depend on you. And isn't that the point? To send them off into society and have lives of their own. You keep loving him and teaching him...he is listening to you.....one day he will thank you mom.
2006-11-15 13:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋