Should I apologize to her??

Question

Ok this is how it started...I had asked my ex, who is the father of my 3 children (who are under the age of 3yrs), why he wasn't helping me out like he used too, as far as groceries and stuff. His comment was "because my parents told me not to help you out that much" (as if they were helping me, huh yea right!) Well the following day I was still pretty pissed off, anyways he was on the phone with his mom saying that I was arguing with him cause he only bought $30 worth of groceries when he knows that kids eat alot, they're growing kids who eat all the time! So his mom was like "well then don't do nothing for her at all, if she needs something tell her NO" ..So I said "F*uck that b*tch" ..and she heard me. I was just so upset that she would tell her own son not to help out her only grandchildren, that I reacted and said them words...Should I apologize to her and if so, how do I even bring it up cause I'm not allowed to call her house...

Ok this is how it started...I had asked my ex,who is the father of my 3 children (who are under the age of 3yrs),why he wasn't helping me out like he used too,as far as groceries and stuff.His comment was "because my parents told me not to help you out that much"(as if they were helping me, huh yea right!)Well the following day I was still pretty pissed off,anyways he was on the phone with his mom saying that I was arguing with him cause he only bought $30 worth of groceries when he knows that kids eat alot,they're growing kids who eat all the time!So his mom was like "well then don't do nothing for her at all, if she needs something tell her NO"..So I said "F*uck that b*tch"..and she heard me.I was just so upset that she would tell her own son not to help out her only grandchildren,that I reacted and said them words...Should I apologize to her and if so,how do I even bring it up cause I'm not allowed to call her house...------We lived together for 2 1/2 yrs. and were engaged.

Also we lived together for 2 1/2 yers and were engaged

Answer 1

If you don't want the drama go to your nearest family court and fill out papers to have child support court issued so he has to pay a certain amount a month or he'll get in trouble. If he doesn't have a job they will make him get a job. Your ex is an immature momma's boy and doesn't comprehend his 3 children have needs. As for yourself instead of your young family suffering go to the state for help food stamps,wic,and alittle cash each month can certainly help out until you can get the kids some child care and yourself a job.Don't rely on a man ( your not dealing with 1 anyway) you need to step up and take control of your situation. I am a single mother of 2 I know its hard as hell but as long as you keep trying to do what is best once you have the kids in daycare and your working you will feel so much better because your doing your part as best you can. Don't wait on him and his mom to help out do it yourself so you can say you did it. When the kids get older they will see who has been there for them fighting for the things they want and working her butt off for them. Tell them both to stick the $30 a week for food up their u know whats you'll see them in court and the courts will issue him to pay atleast $50 a week.Apologize for what? asking her son act like a man?It's just wrong for him to tell mommy what going on between you two it shows that he's not a man and can't handle things with out getting mommy involved.Mom should just stay out of it in the first place and tell her son he made the bed now he's gotta sleep in it or if he was a big boy when he laid down and had 3 babies he can be man enough to make his own decisions without involving his mommy like he's tattle tailing.I feel bad that your gonna have to deal with that boy for the rest of your life and his mommy cause she has already overstepped her bounds cause her son is a momma's boy you will be dealing with her for the rest of her life being in your business. Good Luck !!

Answer 2

You don't provide enough details on why she doesn't seem like she wants anything to do with her grandchildren nor does she want her son to get involved. I guess he SHOULD be more responsible cuz he helped you MAKE these children so yeah. And no why should you apologize? unless you started the fight or argument, you don't owe her nothing!

Answer 3

why is she mad at you? Are you a responsible mom? did you have a good relationship with her from the start? If not, it's going to take some time to patch things up (if you want and can). Otherwise, you're in a Jam. Were you married to him or just his "live in girlfriend"? That would succk if that was the case.

Answer 4

I would not tell her I was sorry. $30.00 is nothing for three kids - he should pay more. They aren't even her kids anyways. I would not worry about her unless it really bothers you then say your sorry but if you can't even call her house why bother? You have to look out for your kids and not someone's feelings who doesn't even seem to care if your kids get enough to eat or not.

Answer 5

Your ex, and his mum are both bang out of order. And if he's a father of 3 and still little mummy's boy then he should grow up get a grip and start helping you out!!! If i were you i wouldnt apologise!

Answer 6

Apologise is the British variation of convey regret. Grammatically the two are maximum appropriate. It totally relies upon on your us of a of residency. it relatively is fairly unhappy which you have been criticized because of the fact the two types are rather perfect.

Answer 7

I wouldn't apologize. if she thinks that little of her grandchildren then I wouldn't.

Answer 8

no! i wouldn't apologize to her what your kids father buys for them is none of her buisness she obviously isn't doing it so she should butt out!!

Answer 9

no dont she is a ***** and you should take him to court trust me that will work he will have to pay childsupport. that would be the best thing to do. trust me!!

Answer 10

Two words.....Hell Yea!