Recently, I have moved to a new town and a guy has started persuing me. He calls, comes over, and says he has feelings for me. This has been going on for the past month. The thing is, he's black and I'm white. I've never dated anyone outside my race, and I like this guy BUT everything I can find on interracial dating seems to say that black guys only want to date white girls for bragging rights. Is this true? Can a black guy be interested in a white girl for more than just being white? Am I going to be hated by all the black girls (something someone said would happen)?
2006-11-15 13:18:32 · 7 answers · asked by jeepchick54 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just listen to ur heart
2006-11-15 13:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by rubberbandbanker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awesome question btw. Yes, you are right to be cautious about the real attraction from this guy. It is a trend for guys like him and also a trend for girls like you, meaning girls are attracted to the "black guy". To find out his true intentions, ask questions about his previous relationships w/ girls of all colors and if he said he dated a girl like you then ask how long was he in the relationship for. Try to get him to describe a phony or shallow relationship, be alert and judgemental. Another way to figure out his true intentions is just getting to know him and getting to know his peers. If seems to be a black "alpha male" type, he is interested in the bragging rights. But if his close circle of friends include a majority of non-blacks and you picture his personality or character as someone who is not attracted to black girls, then his intentions may be true.
There is a high percentage that black girls will hate you for multiple reasons. The concept of bragging rights, the value of a white girl over a black girl in the media, and the constant pursuit of wanting to be attractive or loved. If your feelings for him are true, don't even sweat the hostility.
2006-11-15 21:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have dated black men and no you can't say he is only interested in you for "bragging rights".
You have to judge his intentions the same way you would of someone of your own race. How do you feel when you're with him? Do you truly like him? How does he treat you? Etc., etc.
As far as "being hated by all the black girls", no that is not true. I mean I have definitely run into some black women who didn't like it, but I've run into all races who gave us looks or whatever.
Bottom line is, do you like him? That's all that really matters. Everyone still does not like interracial dating. Believe me, I know. But if you really like each other and want to date, who cares what ppl think? I know I don't.
Good luck!
2006-11-15 21:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
hmm, well dear think carefully about how you handle this! If you go out with him you may be "labeled" within your new community and this could have undesired consequenses by limiting your options should things not work out with him. If you really like him be prepared for any number of "mixed" reviews of your decision. You may have difficulty with his extended family or your own. You can definately expect your prospective children to be treated differently by the extended families. I have witnessed this in my own family. My cousin has two mixed black/white children. then divorced remarried mexican has new baby. Some of my family will not come to functions where she is. :-(
2006-11-15 21:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by G T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Black, white, red, blue, what should it matter?? If you like him and he likes you, go out and see if things work. My very good friend is black and her bf is white and they are in so much love with each other. If he only looks at you as a color, then he's wrong and if you do the same, you'd be wrong too.
People may scorn you, but so what? Don't worry about them, worry about you and him. Do what you want to do.
2006-11-15 21:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by Angelbub 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, date him. If he's only liking you because you're white, I'm sure you'll easily find out after a while. Follow your heart, girl!
...Besides, the websites are very biased and that's just a stereotype.
2006-11-15 21:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by No O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's gross why think about it
2006-11-15 21:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋