ok! yesterday, I told my crush what I felt about him! And today his msn name said that a year has gone by! And then it all came into place....his dad died last year! Should I leave my crush alone because he is probably grieving right now or, should I talk to him about his dad, what should I do?
2006-11-15 13:07:40 · 11 answers · asked by HAPPY <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please note: That this guy is VERY shy and he barely talks to me!
2006-11-15 13:11:26 · update #1
And I did say that I was VERY sorry, first he was unsure what I was talking about, and then he said it's ok!
2006-11-15 13:12:22 · update #2
got this one - my dad died when i was a kid too. tell him you noticed. hell be flattered that youre paying that much attention. then be straight with him. tell him you dont know how to help, but youd like to. hell tell you what he needs. its a big deal to have someone pay that much attention. i was just the same. its easier to have someone admit they dont know quite what to do then have them try to pity you or ignore it. this is really an "its the thought that counts" situation. good luck.
also, you really rock. no one was there for me- i got shipped of to military school. this guys lucky to have your attention.
2006-11-15 13:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by savgbst 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1226 : Your "crush" needs compassion right now. You might stop by and let him know, that you feel bad about his father passing away. Tell him, that if he needs any help with anything, you will be there for him. Send him a card to cheer him or, even ask him if he would like to go outside for a walk with you. While you are walking suggest going for a coffee. Make conversation with him, to break the "ice". Don't "pry" ... but let him talk and you be a good listener. Good luck to you !!!
2006-11-15 13:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. He probably needs space right now. I'm sure the last thing on his mind is hooking up with some chick. It's not the right time for it so just try and be there for him as much as he will let but don't push it.
2006-11-15 13:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe send him something nice like I'm sorry about you dad, It must be really hard. If he replies then write back but say something like I know today is hard for you so let me know if u want to be left alone. If he doesn't reply leave him alone to grieve. If he likes you he will appreciate the Hi.
2006-11-15 13:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by lil 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to him about his dad tell him that you know that he misses him my dad died over two years ago and his birthday had just past and yes i thought of him if he doesn't want to talk about him then respect that but it helps me to think about the good times i had with my dad i took care of my dad while he was dying of cancer my hand was on his shoulder when he took his last breath has a tear fell from his eye he was setting up in the computer chair that i am sitting right now this was really hard for me but i like to remember the good time we had together.
2006-11-15 13:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him. It would come across as extremely insensitive if you knew what the day was about but said nothing about it. The fact that he put it as an MSN name indicates he is open to sympathy. Just take it slowly and be ready to change the topic if he feels uncomfortable.
2006-11-15 13:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am going to continually celebrate the Passover fairly of Easter in view that i found that Easter is a Pagan vacation, i replaced into initially taught that Jesus died on Friday and replaced into resurrected on Sunday yet thats not 3 total days. Jesus died on Wednesday nighttime and replaced into resurrected on Saturday nighttime.
2016-11-29 04:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him but only about the situation with hims dad. Don't be flirty just be a friend!
2006-11-15 13:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how close you are. If you don't know him well, it's not that appropriate.
you are comfortable with each and somewhat close, you can be supportive and see if he needs anything. I wouldn't bring it up unless he wants to. Just let him know that you're there.
2006-11-15 13:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wants to talk about his loss he'll bring it up for conversation.
2006-11-15 13:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋