Help Please. I need to know when is the best time to talk to my boyfriend.?

Question

Today is Wed. and I leave Friday to head to his house for the weekend. I need to talk to him about me finding my own apartment. Originally we had decided that I would just move in with him in January but I am beginning to think that it would be in everyones best interest if I didn't. Its not that I want to break up or anything I just think that we should build more as a couple before we make such a huge step. Right now I live about 5 hours away from him so we talk everyday on the phone and I visit about every three weeks. Should I talk to him on the phone about this or should I wait until Friday and talk to him when I get there? I really need some feedback , thanks so much? ~ Rae

Answer 1

You need to speak with him face to face about this - so he can see your body language as well as hear your words - so much can be easily misconstrued in a phone call - reassure him all is ok but that you really need your own space too.

Answer 2

I'm agreeing with everyone here Rae, you need to tell him this to his face, be open, be loving, and make sure he KNOWS it's not a bad sign for the relationship because it's certainly going to feel like one to him.

To counter that, not to be nasty, but I recommend getting physical and telling him you love him.

A lot.

Answer 3

i think a discusion of this topic should be done face to face.. he may feel as though this is a step backwards in the relationship, so it will be good that you can be there in person to comfort him and hold his hand and reassure him that the relationship is not in trouble, but that you just don't want to move too quickly..

Answer 4

i would wait until you get there .. things are better said in person then over the phone less chance of the other person getting the wrong idea or hanging up :) good luck

Answer 5

if you only see him every 3 weeks hes already cheated on you leave him