Is there any way to persuede your parents?

Question

I would like contact lenses but my mother will not budge on the subject. Is there any way to convince her to get me some?

Answer 1

just take the money out of her purse, she wont be able to see them in your eyes what she doesnt know wont hurt

Answer 2

hmm...the key to that is that you find out why your mom does not want contact lenses for you. There could be a variety of reasons, from too expensive or she is concerned about your health or she thinks you can not handle the requirements for sterile handling or she has heard some other rumors about lenses.

Whatever it is...you should find out. The way to do this is sit down with her in a nice but somewhat serious conversation and just listen to her. Ask questions, listen to her answers. And don't talk too much or be impulsive and say.."but...but..." You need to first find out what your moms real reasons are.

Once you found out you need to take a timeout.Thank your mom for sharing and do not reply right away. But...now you have to go to work and do serious reserach. If you know now that her key concern is the costs involved then you need to find a way to help pay for them. If you found out her key concern is that you would not deal properly with the sterility requirements then you need to pull all materials together you can find about sterile handling and how bad it gets if make a mistake and make a good plan with how would you handle the requirements.

Then - once you have gathered all your materials and reserach you go back and ask your mom for another conversation. You say - mom you shared your concerns about contacts and I did some reserach on the topic. What if....(I find small jobs, walk the neighbors ddog, wash cars and pay half of the costs. The amoutn for a year will 500$ and I promise to pay 300$). come up with a good plan.
Then keep very quiet in the conversation, suppress the urge to get into a discussion. Only make your suggestion and present your plan.
Once she has quieted down just say something like - mom Iw rote everything up for you. If you have a few minutes may I ask you to look into this and let me know what you think.

So - and then she may get back to you and already say...ok. Or she says...can you perhaps add 400$ for the lenses and I will pay for the fluids for one year.

Adn so no...this is called negotiation. If you got your mom to the point where she is wiling to negotiate then you have almost won. Just close your deal at the conditions which work for you both.

Answer 3

Keep accidentally loosing your eye glasses. Don't mention the contacts again. After the 3rd or 4th new eye glass purchases....coyly mention that if you had lenses they would never get lost because they have a special place to be put when you are not wearing them.

Make sure there is a different 'drama' to each eye glasses loss otherwise it may become suspicious to your Mum.

Has your Mother ever stated what her 'fears' are if she provides you with contacts? There must be a reason why she does not 'budge' on the subject. I would wish for my daughter to be happy with her looks whether she wore contacts or not.

Blessings be yours in peace and light
Harriett Potty ;)

Answer 4

Go into this situation like an adult.

1) Find the benefits of contacts--cheaper than glasses, cleaner, easier ability to do sports, drive, etc.
2) Make a contract--you will take care of them and pair for __ number of pairs after the first one
3) Act like an adult--sit down with them and have a discussion. Come to them and listen to their side while giving your side. Don't expect immediate results. End the conversation with, "I would ask that you please look over and consider my presention. We will meet again in 2 days to discuss your opinions on this matter"

Don't go into the line of thinking that losing your glasses will make your parents get you contacts. That's a lie--contacts are just as easy to lose. If you can't keep track of your glasses, why should you get contacts?

Answer 5

You might want to let up on her a while, first; that will show you're willing to act in a more adult manner. And show her you're capable of keeping track of your things (contacts are too expensive to be 'lost' much). And in about 10 years you can buy your own, if she still has reservations.

Answer 6

She needs you to prove that you are responsible enough to handle contacts. Maybe you don't take such good care of the glasses that you wear and so she isn't going to spend the money.

Answer 7

Make sure to put together a presentation that has facts. If your mother sees that you spent a lot of time on something she will probably give you what you want. It will show her you really want this to happen.

Answer 8

sit down and have a talk with them and tell them how you look unatractive with them then thell get or boycott glasses just dont were them at partys

Answer 9

Move out till you get your way. That will teach her.

Answer 10

talk about how it would affect your self esteem and how cost effective it is. good luck.