I want to be lonely sometimes and then, sometimes, I just want to be with a really attractive girl who has a great personality and will listen to me. I know several nice girls who are very attractive. I love girls, and sometimes I am obsessed with one, but I'm shy around girls. I think it's because I'm afraid to say something stupid in a conversation and make a fool of myself, because I get embarassed easily. I am told I'm attractive, and I have a pretty good body, but how do I get confidence? When I get angry at myself for not getting a girlfriend, I just hate love and want to be lonely. Why is this?
2006-11-15 12:38:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You do not have the confidence to tell the women you desire how you feel about them and the courage to accept rejection should rejection come your way. You also dont know how to tell a woman you desire her in a timely manner. What can help you in that is having the fundamentals down. You say you look decent so i will assume you take care of your hygiene. If you dont, youd better start doing that if you expect women to be around you. Having a sense of humor is an important essential. You dont have to be a comedian, you just have to be able to make women you desire laugh because when they do they will open up to you and feel more comfortable around you. Another essential is not waiting too long to let a woman know your feelings for her. If you like a woman, tell her. Dont take 5 for 3 4 or 5 months and then bust a move on her expecting her to be your woman. By then your put in the friend category and you of all people know how hard that is to overcome. Yet another essntial is confidence. This confidence comes in the form of realizing that rejection is a process, not a way of life. You may get rejected by 30 women consecutively. SO WHAT! What makes you think the 31st will say no? Also, you learn any flaws you might have had when you are rejected so that you can fix them the next time you ask a woman out or ask a woman to begin a relationship with you. You also learn the womans side of the situation rregardless of the decision.
2006-11-15 13:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you do not have an appreciation of who you are as a person.
Second, you confuse beauty as what is on the out side and not what is on the inside of a person, Humans are not beautiful because of how they look, but more about the way they are, think say, and do! That is why you have to get to know someone, not just see them.
Last, you are not doing anything interesting with yourself! No music (Lessons), Martial Arts, Tennis, Chess, Theater, Plays, Ballets, Swimming, Photography, museums, community service, ZERO!
Do something, then you will have something meaningful to share with others.
2006-11-15 12:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should calm down on that. Relax your mind and do some tai chi to clear up your mind and think carefully. It is okay like that. Everybody that is shy goes through this, you have to break the fear by actually doing it and getting used to it.
2006-11-15 13:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you know about YOGA an indian treatment? it is a fisical exersice to develop mind and helth
2006-11-15 12:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋