My girlfriend of over a year have recently entered college, and instead of being 5 minutes apart, we are now about 2 hours apart.
The problem is, I just find myself less and less interested, and at the same time she is becoming less and less independent. Even the slightest comment, which has no negative meaning at all, can set her off into a fit which leaves us both worried sick. Then the next day she'll calm down and apologize, and things will go back to normal. We ran through that cycle for a few weeks until I said I'd had enough, and had to think for a while. Soon after she apologized and said that she was just scared and that it wouldn't happen again. Then I saw her this weekend, still unsure about the relationship, and everything just felt off. I felt like she as just making sure not to upset me, in order to not lose me. And I was just sort of wearing a mask. We talked tonight about this, and it ended with her in tears and me unsure of myself.
2006-11-15 12:19:32 · 9 answers · asked by nowayman72 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We decided she would give me more space, and we would try to work things out and rekindle the flame. At the same time though, I feel like it isn't going to work. I still feel so empty concerning the whole thing, and when I think about independence I almost get excited of the possibilities. But then, the grass is always greener on the other side.
I can't stop thinking about the past few days, and it's really just starting to wear me down. I often overthink things, and I was hoping you could help me sort this one out.
Can we really keep this going? Will this relationship come back to where it was? Or should I just man up, end it, and move on with my life?
2006-11-15 12:22:56 · update #1
She still cares for you man, hell college is a big step, and everyone says its hard to have a long distance relationship. In your situation it is a true fact. Just tell her and she will understand, dont make things feel unconfortable with her.
-James
2006-11-15 12:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by jameswilliamlong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"How do keep the music playing?- How do you make it last?- How do you keep the song from fading, too fast?"
I'm affraid it may be over my friend.
The dream has ended. She is in secure and paranoid about something and shes not sharing it with you for some reason.
By the same token if you want it to last- talk to her and sort things out. But it seems by your down beat appraisal of the situation that you've already mentally left her and are just now trying to justify the descision to yourself.
Poor girl, poor you for that matter. It seems that you dearly love each other- yet being together tears you both appart. What a terrible oxymoron to be living.
I hope it works out for you and that you both make the right descisions for yourselves.
The Iceman.
2006-11-15 12:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're around 18-19, it seems that you're way too young to consider being in an exclusive relationship with a person who is far away. Maybe this teen romance has run it's course and it's time to mature on your own, experience life, and get out of this emotional drama. There's no law that says you must remain with your high school girlfriend if life takes you in different directions.
2006-11-15 12:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
College can be a great time in your life- if you are having doubts already, cut and run. Just think about what four years of this will feel like! Trust me. I just graduated, after a long on and off with my hs boyfriend and while I love him dearly, I really think that it would have been better to take college for myself. It's the last time in your life that you can be completely selfish... If you are meant to be together then you will be.
2006-11-15 12:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by nycgirl2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just weirded out by the move and everything that comes along with it. If you love her, then stick by her side, it will be ok. She needs you right now. It's a hard time in her life. If you're not happy then there's no need to go on, but do what you feel in your heart.
2006-11-15 12:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, you guys really love eachother. I would give it a lil more time and see if she has jitters about being so far from you and if the distance is too much for your relationship. She really sounds scared about the changes she has made and loves you deeply. Good luck.
2006-11-15 12:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is far away from you and she is scared, think she can feel your lack of interest in her? I think she can and I also think you already have fallen out of love with her and it's only a matter of time before you end the relationship with her.
2006-11-15 12:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do think you're no longer interested in her. it may have been just infatuation in the beginning of your relationship with her n you kind of just proceed from there and now, you're in need of someone new, fresh and challenging.
2006-11-15 12:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by yoyo l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath... take ur time ...and ask urself... u r the only person who knows the answer....
best of luck!
2006-11-15 12:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by rnrumu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋