i like to pay for everyhting most of the time..why do some guys find this a problem?
2006-11-15 12:01:44 · 12 answers · asked by × 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think its cool to take turns, but maybe you paying for everything all the time makes them feel inferior to you, maybe they think you think they can't afford to do nice things for you. I personally don't know any guys who wouldn't like for their girl to pay for everything most of the time, but there are still some "old fashioned" guys out there that don't like it. (I think it makes them feel manly to let you know they are willing to take care of their woman!) So, maybe next time, let the guy pay for the first couple of dates, then after that, tell him that you got the bill once or twice.
2006-11-15 12:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably make them feel lesser of a man if they aren't being allowed or able to pay for something. It takes away from his purpose as a man, not saying that a woman can't or shouldn't treat her significant other. Save you money, and don't be bull headed. Check your past and see what may cause this need to be in control. Back to the first question, yes, but only on occasion unless he is unable to, and you should use discretion while being involved that individual. Last but not least. You shouldn't want a man that thinks it's okay for you to pay for things all the time.
2006-11-15 12:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a real man he will have a problem with you paying for things all of the time. Men are natural providers and when the woman doesn't allow them to do what comes naturally the man may feel like you don't need him. It could be a turn off. It's OK to go dutch sometimes, but be careful you may find yourself supporting a looser one day!
2006-11-15 12:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys have an intense belief in chivalry or just believe that the man of the house should pay. They take these ideas and apply them to dating and feel like you are taking their job from them.
PS
Hey, if you want to pay for yourself go ahead!
2006-11-15 12:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by TheTechKid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I appreciate the gesture of a girl payin' but I also find it annoying when they insist on paying when I am supposed to be taking them out for the evening.
2006-11-15 12:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being independant andmost guy like it..so nothin wrong with you wanna pay bit i prefer to let the guy pay cos it is a tradition..
2006-11-15 12:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause alot of men believe that they should be the one looking after their girl.
2006-11-15 12:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason is because guys want to show that they have cash and they just want to be nice.
2006-11-15 12:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make them feel like a lesser man and unchivalrous when you pay. Just let him.
2006-11-15 12:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like guys who pay!
2006-11-15 12:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by mysteryonetwothree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋