We have been going out for a month... she says she loves me but that she's really shy to do anything so I don't know what to do... i don't want to rush her but if we don't do anything i'm scared she might say that this relationship is no good... im her first bf so she might not be used to it but what can i do to get her to open up even if it takes time... ???
2006-11-15 12:00:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHAT !?! ... i love this girl with all my heart... this isnt bout. the ***...
2006-11-15 12:11:09 · update #1
hey look man, what u need to do is talk to her and tell her how u feel, just like what u wrote up here, tell her that u feel that she's gonna think the relationship is not good, but don't force her into doing anything she doesn't wanna do, instead, when ur making out w/her, and u guys are alone, try touching her where u haven't before, hey but wait, don't go straight up for it, start slow, making out and give it a couple of mns. after that, slowly move in for the catch, see how she reacts, but remember, talk to her and tell her how u feel.
2006-11-15 12:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by rocko1801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I noticed you didn’t say the S word Sex however I am sure that is what your asking. Don’t rush sex it is not an indicator of a relationship as good or bad. Sex saved for marriage is great too. I know it sounds like your parents or “old fashion”. Honestly you both need to focus on the real indicators of a good relationship. First indicator is do you enjoy talking to one another about day to day things. Are you able to deal with conflict and both feeling good afterwards? Do you enjoy doing things together or would you rather watch football or be with the guys than her. On the other hand would she like to chat with the girls and shop all day rather than spend time with you? Find balance in your relationship keep your friends that are able to appreciate the fact you’re a dating man and committed to one woman.
If you have not finished school or under age 25 build the relationship on sold ground. You seen how your other relationships worked, they were not held together by sex either. This relationship needs to be held on values spiritual, work, play and many other things than the S word. If you must have sex doesn’t rush life by having a child use protection and go slow and listen to her she tell you when she is ready. If you want a relationship it takes three months for phase one to know you like each other. Sex only complicates relationship and does not allow for true care and appreciation on meaningful level to develop. After that second phase one now can look honestly at one another and know what the other person is really like without clouded vision of sex. Good luck!
2006-11-15 20:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man i've been in the exact same situation as you before. Remember the golden rule: girls love hugs, and that goes for all females, no matter what their age. So what i used to do wasgive her lots of hugs and cuddles, then i started doing the same thing but giving her kisses on the cheek. So i was building up slowly step-by-step and our phone conversations went from 10minutes at first to 2-3 hours at a time. What you need to do is to take things slow, and just communicate more with her so that she feels comfortable with you. Good luck!! =D
2006-11-15 20:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by thugster17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. Do you really have the patience to see it through and possibly end up wasting another few months of your life waiting for her to change? OR you can just break up with her now and save yourself a lot of time and heartbreak, because believe me, there are a hell of a lot more people out there. She'll eventually learn to get over her problems on her own terms and maybe someday on down the road you guys can resolve your problems. Just don't get caught waiting around for someone when it may not even be worth it.
2006-11-15 20:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jason Whitmore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you are together, the easier it will be for her to open up to you. Don't rush anything cause she'll end up leaving. With this being her 1st relationship, she'll be really shy with everything. Give her time and she'll come around.
2006-11-15 20:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her places shes never been before but make sure she stays comfortable start out slow and show her a good time and make her laugh and maybe she will open up
2006-11-15 20:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by I Love Diet Coke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont rush her. Thats cruel. Bring it up casually in conversation one day and ask her what she thinks.
Ask if you can kiss her and take it from there. Don't move too fast.
2006-11-15 20:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by ¡Free Love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that how she is or she is not used to having a bf. be patient & let her know u love her and u r there for her. let her trust u
2006-11-15 20:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Make Love Not War! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, that may be all it takes: time. Just be patient, and don't scare her off.
2006-11-15 20:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and do things that she is comfortable with. don't rush her but slowly see what she likes
2006-11-15 20:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋