Help, my three year old won't listen. I ask "please will you do blah blah" After three times I am ready to po

Question

p. I don't want to shout and smack but it is sooo frustrating. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

You should take up meditation. You need more patience for the sake of your child, if not your own.

Answer 2

Discipline. Don't give into tantrums. If he/she screams in the store for candy let her scream. The people in the store will get over it. They only have to listen to it for 10 minutes. I take my 3 year old to mommy and me every Monday. This Monday she thought she would throw a fit in the school office at my son's school. I told her we weren't going to mommy and me due to her behavior. She screamed all the way to my other daughters pre school class and all the way home. There is no mommy and me for the next two weeks. I am hoping she will behave better for the next one. If not, I will be driving her home again. When she demands something or throws a fit she does not get it. I won't put up with it. She continues her behavior but I follow through. Eventually she will get it. You just have to stay consistent. If I think of anything else I will add it. If you find something else that works let me know. Remember, we are going through the same thing and we can use all the help we can get, LOL.

Answer 3

At three, they understand the concept of 'either - or'. Make it simple; two choices - either you eat at least some of your dinner, or you have no dessert afterwards. Or, Either you wear shoes outside, or your go inside. As another answerer mentioned, keep it simple and let them make the choice for themselves.

Also, it's very easy to give kids too many directions. If they are directed all the time, they just stop listening altogether. Focus on the important things only, and leave them be the rest of the time. Most things really aren't that important, so long as they eat, sleep, and are appropriately clothed.

Good luck.

Answer 4

three year olds do not have the capacity to follow spoken instructions alone.

Try this.

Imagine it is time for her to pick up her toys and put them away because you want to her to have lunch.

Take the child by the hand and say. "Let's see how quick we can put the toys away." then give her a toy and take her to the place the toy needs to go. When she places it in near enough to the right place tell her how clever she is and then you pick up a toy and place it in the right place. Then encourage her to do another one. Keep taking turns and then say to her wow look at that we have put all of your toys away. I wonder if we can pack them faster tomorrow. Then take her by the hand and lead her to the table for her lunch.

Yes this seems more time consuming than you saying pick up your toys and her just doing it but the reality is she is not going to just do it. You will find it is less stressful for you and for her in the long run.

Answer 5

Why are you ASKING a 3 year old. You need to exert authority. No need to shout or smack. Look her in the eye, tell her what to do, and tell her the consequence if she doesn't. Then, follow through with a praise or punishment (timeout) accordingly.

Answer 6

I don't have mommy experience but I worked in a daycare for over a year with about 20 3yr olds, I feel your pain! I could only get children to listen to me by first crouching down to their level so you are not towering over them and then give them options. Like if you want your child to eat there vegetables say you can either eat the rest of your dinner or go sit in your room, and let them choose what they want. If you give them the appearance they are in control of the situation they are much more likely to do what you want. Good luck!

Answer 7

because how you act is not natural a 3 year old cannot be expected to act like a reasonable person
spock was an Idiot.

The Mazatecas Indians of Oaxaca in Mexico .lightly beat their naughty babies with a small twig(and they are incredibaly soft with their children)
if the child cries or misbehaves ,it gets hit with the twig
after a while you only have to show the child the twig and it behaves
i explained this to a MexicaN LADY WITH A NEW BORN ,and she also started to do this ,and it works wonders ,and the child is not hurt or traumatised .

for people to say i discuss or talk to my 3 year old is ridiculous.
just watch how a dog treats her puppies ,goodnaturedly and loving ,but if they step out of line ,SNAP
that is normal,

Answer 8

I agree with one of the pervious answers. Ask him "Do you want to pick up the green block or the red one?" Say Thank you when he does it, tell him what a big boy he is and he is such a good helper. Hes three, they are stubborn at that age!

Answer 9

Make sure you have her/his attention first, THEN ask. I give my girls two "chances" to mind me, then they get into trouble.

I think also the tone of voice helps. If you use a no-nonsense type of voice at those times only, they will listen.

Answer 10

don't ask him, tell him what you want him to do.
If he still refuses or doesn't listen then tell him he has a choice: either you do it or I do it for you.
Then once he does or doesn't do it, you proceed to your next step
If he listened, praise him!!!
If he didn't listen tell him that he can try again later and when he does do it reward him