Give me one good reason why I shouldnt hop a plane right now & be with him. And 'his wife' isnt a good enough

Question

reason...Judge if you feel like you have to, I can take it...But I really just want one good reason not to go. I'm about to hop a plane, I need talked out of it.......

Answer 1

I won't talk you out of it because you are an adult capable of making the decisions which are best for you.

Nor will I judge you because it isn't my place and I am not perfect.

So board that plane, fly to his side. Enjoy your time with him.

Just be aware of the situation. You are coming between a marriage and that has consequences whether or not you're found out or not.

Most extra-marital affairs have no future- be aware of that as well...

The Iceman.

Answer 2

There are so many good reasons:
1. He is a cheater. Even if he does happen to leave her (which the statistical odds are against btw) he will cheat again.
2. He doesn't really love anyone but himself. In order to be in love people need to be emotionally available.
3. What if it was your best friend, mother or sister that was doing the same thing? Would you be all for it? Or think - "not a good idea?'
4. You will never trust him.
5. Chasing a man is NEVER ok. They don't respect that. It is a generalization but please, please go to a bookstore and read The Rules.
6. Men will say anything and no matter how genuine it seems to get you. Do you believe that he didn't say the same things to her when he met his wife?
7. A real man would end a relationship that wasn't working, figure out what went wrong and THEN pursue a relationship. Anything else is damaged goods.
8. I promise you that you will embarrass and humiliate yourself if you go - fantasy and reality are not the same thing.
9. His wife is a good enough reason. If you are going to play the game, then you have to play by the rules and that is - the other woman only matters when he is paying attention to her. Otherwise he has a family - that is why being the other woman sucks.
10. It's not about judgement. We have all been there unfortunately. It vary rarely works out and when it does (it did for my best friend) the trust issues are insurmountable, the excitment fades and the person you were so madly in love with you soon realize, is not the same person you ended up with.

Demand better for yourself.

Answer 3

Why can't you find a guy that's single so you don't hurt another such as this guys wife? Do you even realize chances are all the things this guy is telling you about his marriage and his wife are built up to look worse then how the situation really is? Don't you ever wonder even if you did take this guy away from his wife that chances are down the road when he's bored with you he'll do the same thing to you? And please don't say "not me". I never would have thought my ex would cheat on me but he did and i can't say how much that hurt me. Just think about some things first ok. Not just yourself but others involved.

Answer 4

I am not quite sure I understand your question. It sounds like you are the other woman, if that is so you are setting yourself up to be hurt. If it is imperative for you to fly somewhere, go see someone else, and if its really that serious, fly to a place you've never been and have a one nighter and party the night away, never get your emotions involved (but you will find out the hard way) for a married man, he is stringing you along, all you will get with him is a wet *** and broken promises...she is his wife for a reason and he is still with her for a reason.

Answer 5

1) If he felt like you was worthy, then he would DIVORCE his wife to be with you, but he hasn't so what does that tell you.
2). If the wife sees you, she will kick your ***.
3). Don't ever go and run after a married man because if he is cheating on her believe me he will cheat on you.
4). Say No To Taken Men. There is plenty of single men out here

Answer 6

LISTEN CAREFULLY! Here are two good reasons not to do it. 1) If he's willing to cheat on his wife, he will definately cheat on you, and 2)(most importantly), If he has any children, you could be the cause of a broken home for these children. This situation is way deeper than just hormones. Stand up and be a decent woman.

Answer 7

Because he has a wife. Maybe you should go on that plane and make a surprise visit. It would be interesting to find out that she is probably a good person or such. then he would feel like a total a'ss.

Answer 8

Good enough 4 whom?
He married her....and he PLAYING with you---your self-respect is ONE good reason, one that lasts a LIFETIME
--->when in doubt, consider the message your behavior would teach your own daughter....
People cheat for reasons other than "bad "marriages or being misunderstood...they cheat out of boredom, lust, infatuation, money, self empowerment, to be "one of the boys/girls",,,or occasionally just because there is someone out there WILLING to be #2----don't let it be you!
If he cheats...he's a cheater PERIOD...do you want that for YOUR future. Do not delude yourself into believing that your life would improve with him in it #1 can you look in a mirror for the rest of your life because YOU enabled him, perhaps destroyed another human being (regardless of your perception of if they are "worthy" of him) #2 you are humiliating yourself and reducing your own self worth---if he's unhappy regardless of his marital situation and you were "the one" he'd leave and BUY YOU the ticket to join him. DON'T bring the womens movement back to the day of "mistresses".
Take your $ and get a massage with some friends and nuke Mr Married----if he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you!

Answer 9

if he has been with you, and is still with his wife, then you, my dear, are a toy, a plaything, something to fill his time when he is bored. He won't leave her for you, no matter what. So if you want to be crushed, humiliated and out the hundreds of dollars it'll cost to fly there go right ahead. Personally, I'd find someone who deserves you.

Answer 10

Just think of it this way....
If he's willing to have an affair on his wife with you, whats not to say he wouldnt cheat on you in the future with someone else?? Look at it from his wife's perspective. Wouldnt you want to kick the other womans butt if you found out about it?