do you think my bf is just a ninfo or will he leave me like he left his wife?

Question

after my divorce i contacted my high school love.had not had contact with him in many yrs and did not know what to expect.he told me he was married w/child but after talking to him he told me he had thought about me often and was very unhappy in his marrage.one thing lead to anouther and we had sex(not planed just happened) and he left his wife for me.he spent many nights crying to me about how mean his wife was but stayed for thier son.we have been together for about 5 mos. and things seemed like a dream.he would spend hours just looking at me and saying things like "i can't believe its you","you are the most beutiful person in the world","i love u baby" and would brag about me to everyone we met.well i just found out he has been sleeping with someone at work!i also know he told her he would never leave me for her so its just sex hes after.when i asked him about it he denied it and i did not push it.if a man really loves his gf why would he cheat on her even if it was just sex not lov

Answer 1

Why would he do this? Because he can. And, no offense, but you let him.( Unknowingly of course). Sounds like he'll say anything to get what he wants & is one hell of an actor too. He doesn't know what it is that he REALLY wants, so until he decides, it's just....whatever. Your best bet, in my opinion, is just to end it on the grounds that " we're just too different", & protect yourself; emotionally and otherwise before it gets too "involved".

Answer 2

Well in your case there are 3 reasons. One, he made a mistake and was horny, in the mood or whatever, and fell for that other woman and slept with her. Second, he is a loser and is just using you as a back up plan and proved that by sleeping with another woman and denying it. Third, while he may indeed love you, he is not sexually satisfied by you despite what you might believe. You want to believe that its situation 1 or 3, but you have to brace for the fact that it could be situation two. If it is situation two then your answer is that he is simply a low down dog. Period and you gotta cut him lose before he uses you. Especially if he left his ex wife for you. Now, if it was an honest mistake then you get to get mad at him and kick his ***. Then when you feel hes had enough love him again. Though as a consequence your trust that you built up will be lost. If situation 3 is the case then that is your best scenario because then all you two have to do is communicate your feelings to one another and then you can go about creating a solution that will make it work for you and cause him to keep him happy in bed as oppose to wondering around with co workers and such. Well, now its up to you to figure out which of the three scenarios your bf fits in. Good luck!

Answer 3

Maybe you're just a rebound for him to get back on his feet (I mean to get back on the dating scene) and instead of staying alone by himself, you were just convient for him and why not going all the way (Sex). I guess if u really love someone, you wouldn't cheat and would be very happy to be with this person.

If i were you (and not too desperate to keep him), i would confront him again about it and just dump him. If he starts cheating now, i don't think a second or third time would be difficult to do.

Answer 4

lol! First of all, this information you just posted here, should NEVER be said out loud. Do you know how weak your actions are? He left his wife and a kid and you're tripping about how YOU feel?!!! You need to dump this mess and go find God ASAP!

Answer 5

I believe that he has now and always had a lot of ladies waiting on him, and no doubt is enjoying each and every one of you

Answer 6

cause he's playing you. if he would cheat on his wife, then he'd cheat on anyone. same goes if he leaves her for someone else, it'll just happen over and over again

Answer 7

NINFO!!! hahahahaha. Boy are you scary.

Answer 8

i'd say bye honey.

Answer 9

You are not wrapped tight! DUH!