me &m bf have been togethar for almost 2 years i love him but things have changed. i lost about 20 pounds because of my eating disorder &my bf is so mad about it &is trying to make me gain weigh but i refuse and he started being really mean to me. whenever he has a problem im extra nice &understanding but he is so stubborn.
also i love to go to church and do fun things with friends. but he is so lazy and it seems like he does not care about God &i cannot have a man like that! he works a lot thats why he is lazy but then again he likes to makeout &hes not lazy when it comes to that. I HATE KISSING &DOING PHYSICAL STUFF! i will really LOVE it when i am married to him but not right now. also it seems like he never cares.he always tells me to gain weight and tells me he misses my butt. but he still says he loves me &hes still faithful.i was sick the past few days &he was like "dont act like a pest'' but i cant help it when im sick.
is it cuz hes not sensitive enuff? wat should i do?
2006-11-15 11:35:43 · 14 answers · asked by alinanonymous 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont want to gain weight i want to do something else!but what?
it also seems like he is not interested in talking to me anymore. i cry about this but he just doesnt understand and he thinks im a crybaby.
what can i do? any advise please!!!!!
THANK YOU TO ANYONE WHO EVEN BOTHERS TO READ ALL THIS!
2006-11-15 11:36:32 · update #1
Dump that loser!
2006-11-15 11:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by motherpeanutbutterbutinsky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl, maybe he's trying to get you to gain weight for your own good. Disorders are really dangerous. But if you need to cry, let it out. You need to sit him down, and tell him everything you just told us. Thats what men do. They act like they don't care and they really do. If you two been together for 2 years then there is love. I'm not going to tell you to break up with him because thats not the answer. I had a boyfriend who never went to church with me, and he was so aggressive that I would tell him all the time and he just brushed me away. But your relationship is different. You know the real side. Yeah he's going to want that *** and want all that intimite( don't know if thats spelled right!)stuff but he loves you. If you tell him how you truely feel and he just look at you like you are the most lowest thing in the world, you know what has to be done. You already know all this. And by you still being with him, I know your bright and strong. So follow your heart.
Good luck!!!
2006-11-15 11:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nema 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy, i think u r over reacting, he's telling u to gain weight because he's worried about u, u said yourself that u have an eating disorder. Relationships r hard and it takes a lot of work on both sides. Kissing is a natural part of any relationship, i don't know a man that doesn't need some sort of affection from his girlfriend/wife. Be happy that you have a hard working man that is interest in you well being and is physically attracted to u, most men these day are only interested in themselves. Continue to invite him to church, he will go sooner or later.
2006-11-15 11:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by wise one 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than that, You deserve to treated with love, respect, and kindness. You should find someone who will cherish you and treat you like you like you are all that matters to him. He should respect you, Don't let him take advantage of you, he is only doing what he wants, not what you want. A relationship takes work on both parts, if he isn't willing to do his part then you want someone else. I am 16 and I know that. You are a wonderful person and should be treated like one. Don't take that kind of behavior from anyone. My advice is find the right guy, not a selfish and lazy creep that doesn't have enough sense to treat you the way you should be treated.
Godspeed,
Savage
2006-11-15 11:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by savage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dear, the first thing you need to do is get this eating disorder under control. you have to take care of yourself first and love yourself before you can even worry about others.
if he can't understand that you are dealing with a problem then maybe you should take a break from him. get your problems sorted out and then decide if he is really the guy you want to be with or not.
as far as physical stuff, there are other guys out there that won't pressure you into stuff you aren't ready for.. so don't feel that this guy is the only one out there you can be with.
but please, if you have a disorder, then get that sorted out. your physical and mental health are the most important priority!
2006-11-15 11:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad what ur going thru, i dont know wats wrong,its good to be thin but why must it be eating disorder, are u healthy thats another factor to be looked at,actually malnourishment brings to depression, but ur guy is not helping too, he must be tired thats y he just want to stay at home most times, theres nothing u can do if he does not believe in God u cannot force him to believe but u can show kindness and compassion,but if u suspect ur not getting the same amount of love and care from him, then maybe he truly dont care for ya, loneliness is hard to deal with, maybe thats y both u guys stick together though things are getting hard, dont think of breakup too soon, u might regret it, talk to him about it, nicely, could be he just wants ur attention and he might seriously miss the 'old you' i dont know it might not just be physical, my ex loves me to gain weight too i cant understand why i love to be thin, but thats y he's my ex, so u have to know what u really want girl, and dont let fear of being alone control your life...improve the relationship or be over with it..
2006-11-15 11:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by aishah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say dump his butt, but hes all nice sometimes, although I'm sure you could find a better man but I know its hard to let go, and when he is with you, you probably love him and he seems to love you to.......so I say try talking to him more about it but do keep in mind theres ups and downs to a relationship I hope it works out for you guys. As far as eating is concerned though don't let him tell you what to do be yourself.
2006-11-15 11:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by bearcatz_07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont comprehend? i think of u would desire to easily callhim seeing as how he's ur boyfriend and all??? call HIM and be like what the hell why did u shop strolling away on the interest waht the hell is inaccurate with you.. possibly u suggested something or did somthing that indignant him and made him wanna leave yet while he dosent have the heart to tell u whats incorrect i think of you will desire to unload him... like call him and be like what the hell thank you to overlook approximately me? anyhow... regardless right this is alil advice... no boy is well worth crying over..and the only that is would never make you cry.
2016-10-15 14:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him if he doesn't respect u or god and also why would want to be with a guy who makes u unconformable and makes u cry. Good Luck
2006-11-15 11:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some depression medicine. It sounds like you have the problem not your bf. Give him credit for sticking around.
2006-11-15 11:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Robbyz3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can't help it wen ur sick and he should be more sensitive u gotta find some way to make him listen so that he can understand u better
2006-11-15 11:40:12 · answer #11 · answered by Cntrygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋