Girls can have lots of affection and care for other girls and still be considered straight. But I've noticed that whenever a boy has a lot of affection for and cares a lot about another guy, he is usually considered gay, even though I know he probably isn't. Basically, girls can have girlfriends without being seeen as a lesbian, but guys can't have "boyfriends" without being seen as gay. Why is it like this? Is the standard for male heterosexuality so rigid that they have to devote all of their emotions toward females in order to avoid being stereotyped as homosexual?
2006-11-15 11:33:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that boys just like girls can have personal bonds and affectionate friendship.Though they show it in different ways,i like that boys tend to be more physical than girls.well actually i am just saying from my personally experience.
Why they are considered gay,well just like girls,boys have this labels about how they should act.Like girls should be more sensitive and guys physical and not emotion and affectionate.So when they show their other side they get stereotyped just girls are when they act like a boy should.
2006-11-15 11:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by Moanika 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you!
Thats the same question I've been asking for years.
Girls have "girlfriends", but God forbid a guy refers to a friend of his as "boyfriend"!
Perhaps its a masculinity thing, in the hunter/gatherer, men strong women weak sense of the word. (Obviously the women folk aren't weak...)
I am comfortable in my own sexuality to be able to say; "Wow- he's cute!" or "If was gay I'd sleep with him in heartbeat."
But I'm not gay. I love women too much to become gay. Yes I'm curious but I would never go through with anything because of whats involved!
Still doesn't mean that if I display affection for a male friend that I want to "be" with him!
The Iceman.
2006-11-15 19:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its society that make people think this way. i went to thailand and guys were holding hands and hugging and stuff and they were not gay. over there there is not much judging. and guys can show affection with out being assumed gay. but in countries like new zealand and australia and america it is different. wouldnt it be great if society was less judgemental so you have more freedom to be who you are. but its not the case so its important to learn to not care what people think. if you no your not gay and your close friends and family no your not gay then who cares? that is all that matters.
2006-11-15 19:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a very good question I don't know maybe guys or people that are homphoic are just acting out to get alot of anttention it's pretty stupid if you think about. Why are people hate on other based on what sexaulity they like it's just wrong.
2006-11-15 19:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Positivitydeepbreathing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋