im a male 15 year old. a few months ago i was in a pretty good relationship but my gf was always worried her best friend would find out because her best friend had liked me before she did. you would think if she really liked me it wouldn't matter to her.
2006-11-15 11:32:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was only worried because she didn't want to hurt her friend. If you really liked her, you would be more considerate of her feelings.
2006-11-15 11:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lotta guys ask that.
i'm a girl, and i can see why you guys are confused....
well.... see, there's this unwritten law in "girl world" that says that if your best friend likes a guy before you do, then... well, you're not supossed to like him.
i don't know if it's to be loyal, or if it's to avoid a fight, but we do that.
its like liking your best friend's crush is commiting a crime, betraying someone close to you.
and if the friend didn't decide to hate you, then you'd probably be avalanched with guilt, anyway... and who wants to live a miserable life?
although i think that staying away from your crush is much harder ...
if i were you, i'd go up to your gf and talk to her about the whole issue; if she really loves you, why can't she tell her best friend? i mean, it's not as if even if you broke up with her, you'd like her best friend, right? so go talk to your gf, tell her to talk to her best friend, or if she doesnt wanna go alone, you could go along to support her.
and if that best friend is a good best friend, she will see you guys are happy and be happy with you.
soooo, to answer your question....
girls have an unwritten law.
2006-11-15 19:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by Seira T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship will be around longer than a 15 yr old boyfriend. Sorry But the truth hurts
2006-11-15 19:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by faye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She acts like that because her friend can be a real ***** and get pissed at her if she found out. You should really try to comfort her and tell her that her friend is not a friend if she cant be happy for her.
2006-11-15 19:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by sakura7blossoms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls get jealous, datings one big competition. Its annoying. Plus we feel that we might get into a fight with a friend. That sux. We dont want to feel like weve stolen a guy from our friends.
2006-11-15 19:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by gothielocks13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you gotta realize her friend was there first. Yeah you mean a lot to her, and she cares about ya, but her friend was by her side before you were.
2006-11-15 19:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by sweetfunflirtytx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it shouldn't, but you see girls have this thing about hey I saw him first back off. so I bet thats why, is because she don't wanna hurt her friend nor end up lossing her friendship...........see like some girls if they see someone hitting on there crush it's going down.....that chick is going to die because she evan thought about touching her man.. thats why but I can see why she should just relax and date you.
2006-11-15 19:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by bearcatz_07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would also think that she should have told her friend before now. She shouldn't be hiding her feelings for you.
2006-11-15 19:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want to hurt her friends feelings. cuz her best friend liked you, which means she wants to be your girl friend.
so, her best friend would be heart broken if she found out.
2006-11-15 19:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by anonymoushorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah because if her friend like you or like if she find out that you girlfriend like her you know maybe she gonna break up with her or like never talk to her. you know because she likes you that's why she is scared
2006-11-15 19:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by simi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋