I really like this cutter girl, but most people don't know she cuts. We were friends , but i slipped up and told alot of people ( including this boy she likes) and now she wont even talk to me.... I needed to warn my homeboy ( the guy she likes ) about the cutting she does... But he went and checked her arms and saw the cuts, and he kinda dissed her. I feel really bad now and I want to find someone else , but I can't get her off my mind. She wont even talk to me now....She was really mad I told my homeboy about the cuts....I'm still in love with her.... What should I do.
I feel so bad on so many levels right now. I didn't even mean to diss her , but she keeps on messing with my mind and even my homeboy said (she really doesn't like you). She's got me confused cased she really acts like she likes me.... What to do.....
2006-11-15 11:26:02 · 16 answers · asked by keithr2003 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has known problems
2006-11-15 11:49:44 · update #1
First fo all this girl has some major issues that need to be addressed. She doesn't need to be involved in a relationship now with anybody. She needs help from a therapist. If she is underage or not an adult you need to get her some help quick. Tell her parents or a school counselor. After she has had treatment she might thank you later. She could also be mad but if you care for her either way it turns out her health and well being should be the most important thing right now to worry about.
2006-11-15 11:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though you shouldn't have told so many people, it sounds as if you were worried about this girl and her cutting issues. It wasn't right for your friend to diss her like that over this problem she's having though. Most people who cut are usually very depressed, and maybe right now she needs to learn to accept herelf before she should get involved in a relationship with you or anyone else. Just give it time and continue apologizing to her, but give her space as well. Don't worry, I'm sure things will eventually turn around.
2006-11-15 19:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by lux<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm a cutter and have been for about 8 years (not that i'm proud, just puttin it out there so u kno where i'm comin from.) chances r, she's gonna find a problem with u. cutters tend to be sensative at the same time tht they're lookin for somethin to be sensative about. this will prolly blow over in time. but wht's more important is u can use it to ur advantage. once she's talks to u again (give it time, bro. dont force her) say u told ur friend either a) cuz u were jealous and wanted her to like u. she might think it's romantic. but if u dont think tht'll work, then go for choice b.) and tel her tht u care so much about her tht u wanted to get her help.
2006-11-15 19:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by HW-7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has "cut" you off man. You outted her to yer homeboy and that shows what a dog u r, she has every right to be poed at u, u violated her trust and yer surprized? Sheesh.....please make sure you can't breed, you r dangerous. Love? U have no clue what love is honey, go back to yer crib and stay there till yer Momma calls ya!
2006-11-15 19:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing.but instead of telling your friends,you should've told a teacher.i would know.i used to cut myself,and my friends told the teacher.at first i hated them,but now im doing ok,and i thanked them later on.just write her a note or email or letter saying how sorry u r.u should probably tell a teacher though.and tell them to keep it confidential.eventually she will thank u.just try to let her understand.if u wanna talk anymore email me at my_mind_is_mine@yahoo.com or my_mind_is_mine@hotmail.com.
oh and u might want to tel your friend not to be so judgemental.cutting is like an addiction,and he should talk to her about it as u should.l8er.
peace,love,empathy
2006-11-15 19:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by HarleyQuinn2011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing but you went about it the wrong way. Your biggest concern should be for you to get her help to stop cutting.
2006-11-15 19:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Naomi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that you told your "home boy" because you were watching out for him but you told him for your own benefit because you knew that the would diss her and she would be interested in you. now she lost all trust in you and will probably take time for her to trust you again . i say good luck if i were you i will come clean and wait for her to get over it.
2006-11-15 19:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by cosita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u luv her and that u were just watchin out 4 the 2 of ur friends then wen u make up tell her how u feel
2006-11-15 19:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful*~*luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well o my gosh why did you do that. perhaps maybe you were a little jealous. You know what try doing something special for her and even tell her a little secret of your own.
2006-11-15 19:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by cheerdnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just leave her alone. She has serious problems. She probably only acts like she likes you when she wants something.
2006-11-15 19:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by israel'sgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋