Okay so my best friend in the whole wide worlds boyfriend just asked her to marry him and she said "YES" I used to go out with his best friend and earlier he asked me to marry him !!!!!! What should I say !!!! PS: We do not go out I think he only did it cuz his best friend did and he just wanted to keep up with him I also go out woth a guy named Michael and I really like him and I don't know what to do!!!
2006-11-15 11:22:06 · 16 answers · asked by ROCKSTAR IN LOVE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him no
2006-11-15 11:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can look at it in two ways: One, when he saw his best friend ask his girlfriend to marry him, maybe he thought how much of a wonderful girl you are and why didn't he ask you, realizing that he may lose you. Seeing that his friend decided that she was the right one for him made him realize that you were the right one for him.
Or, he wanted to compete. He wanted to see that if you said yes to him, would he try to upstage his own friend to try to make himself look better? You'd be surprised that there are some really shallow people out there. And, if this would be the second scenario that we are talking about, what would happen with the wedding itself? Would he try to make the date before theirs or after? Would he try to outdo them? Like a one-up-manship kind of a thing? Is he the type of guy who cannot stand even for his best friend to be happy, like saying " Well, you are not the only one who girlfriend wants to marry him" type of attitude.
I would ask him why? I mean, have you always talked about marriage before? Have you made an "what if" type of scenario for yourself when it came to marriage talks? And, if this is all out of the blue type of deal, what mande him think about marriage int he first place. And why you? Are you the type that would like to get married? Now? Never? If he has a sentence that comes out with anything that remotely relates to his friend did this or why can't we do what they did or ANYTHING that goes in that direction using his friend and your best friend as an example, I would suggest that the second part of what I had written above about his feelings for getting married are more acurate then you think. I would question his reasons.
I hope this advice helps you out. But, if it is the first thing that I said, then I wish you nothing but the best. If it is not, then, you can probably do better.
2006-11-15 11:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guy asked you to marry him and you think cause his friend just asked your best friend that this GUY is just trying to keep up with him and you're asking us what to do? And you are actually wondering how to respond to that? And you are going with some other guy? I hope you can't have children! You need more help then a few paragraphs of scribble can do. Please, put the pipe down, Meth kills!
2006-11-15 11:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry a guy for the wrong reason...because he asked you is the wrong reason. You can't accept a proposal when you are seeing someone else either right? I think you are right, you have the rest of your life to find someone that feels the same way you feel about them. That is when you should marry. Best of luck to you!
2006-11-15 11:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by smwah345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him unless your positive thats who you want to spend the rest of your life with...marriage isnt just something you do. It changes your whole life.
If you like this other guy you are with then why would you even consider saying yes to the other guy? if you really liked him you wouldn't even consider it...
2006-11-15 11:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I read this right, you are dating two guys and one asked you to marry him. I don't think you are in a position to marry if you don't even want to date him exclusively. Tell him you are flattered but not interested at this time.
2006-11-15 11:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your bestfriends boyfriends best friend to leave you alone, he is strange for asking you to marry him when you already have a boyfriend
2006-11-15 11:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by alias_47 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ou feel that that's the only reason why he asked you then maybe you should talk to him about it. If you don't love him i would just wait .
2006-11-15 11:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, say not for now. let time go by, and if he still wants to do it later, then it might not just be for competition. but if he gets upset and stuff, then it's cuz he's fallin behind.
2006-11-15 11:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by HW-7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you again? If you're like 20 +, then go for it if you want to.
2006-11-15 11:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
..... if you think that your'e not really ready for marriage, just now, thank him generously for asking, but tell him it's just to early for you, at this stage of your life...
2006-11-15 11:28:57 · answer #11 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋