Alright so I have never actually been to a "party". I guess you could call what I want to go to this Friday a party, but basically it is a bunch of my friends (including my boyfriend) getting together and drinking and hanging out and dancing. I want to go and stay the night there so I don't have to drive home if I have been drinking. I never get to drink at things like that becuase I am always the designated driver. I choose to be. This time I really want to be able to stay out all night and have a good time. My parents fully trust me, and they know that I don't lie to them. I guess my question here is, should I just be straight forward with her about what I want to do (I think she will tell me that I can't go because there is going to be drinking) or should I say that I am going to a friends house and just go to the party (if I got caught my trust with her would be blown)? There is no way around it, I really want to go ...Please no stupid answers. Please help.
2006-11-15 10:56:56 · 8 answers · asked by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I like the honest person that you are and with all my heart,you are few and far and I believe that you would and could set an example for your friends and that Is honorable(note I didnt when I was your age)I wish I could have been more llike you when I was your age,your a good kid and you must love and have great parents too.
I know you will make the right choice
2006-11-15 11:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is this party the type of thing that you will remember fondly and say to yourself, "this really improved the quality of my life to this day" five years from now? I can't imagine it is.
Honesty is always the best policy, even if it leads to temporary discomfort. In the long run, you'll always look back and be glad you were honest.
Even if you lie and get away with it this time, it will damage your conscience and you will likely lie more frequently. Eventually it can lead to a loss of self respect even if your lies are never found out.
I think if the party is really important to you right now, it's worth trying to see if you can go. You might be surprised! Maybe your parents will let you go. You said they trust you implicitly. Perhaps prepare something to express your reasons you believe you should be allowed to go. Be respectful and dignified in sharing your reasons. If your parents still refuse to let you go, they'll remember your maturity and intelligent way of reasoning with them and it will likely go that much farther in cementing your relationship with them.
I wish you well in whatever you decide.
2006-11-15 19:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by berdudget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all I think you're better off not going. it sounds like you are a little too young and or naive, for what you're so called friends have lined up for you. It sounds to me like everyone and their sister are gonna be high at this social gathering. Second of all you're caught in a catch 22 . If you tell your parents the truth you probably wont be going, and if you lie and get into any problems like intro to drugs or gang rape and or pregnancy you will always have this on your concsience, so if you have to ask this question you should probably stay home with your parents and stay out of trouble. good luck
2006-11-15 20:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to think about what your doing with your life about drinking & lieing to your parents be honest if they say NO dont go i know you want to go really bad but what happen if you get too drunk & somebody rapes you or you get into a car with some thats drunk & they crash & then you die how would you feel.. think of your parents cause they would loose a wonderful daughter is that what you want then go if not obay your parents PLease... trust me if you go then thats up to you but like i said better safe then sorry !!!
2006-11-15 19:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be able to enjoy and do what you really want to do. Don't lie too much or you will lose trust and it takes a really long time to lose trust again.
2006-11-15 18:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be honest. You sound like a nice person and your parents probably trust you. Don't do anything to jeopardize that trust.
2006-11-15 18:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by happyha31 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally i would tell th truth... tell them you are responsible and that's y you came to them with the truth instead of lying ... they might jsut let you go, but in every situation there can always be a downside..... if you have a cell.... tell them that if something happend you will call and ask them to pick you up since you don't want to drive drunk.... i would let my kid go if they were responisble like that
2006-11-15 19:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest with your parents because if you break their trust it will take a long time to regain it. Also, if you aren't of legal drinking age...you shouldn't be drinking...you should take your life into consideration...is drinking with a couple of friends worth it?
2006-11-15 18:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by erindrozda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋