I'm much older and we are different in all ways. She is blue collar and has no education. There is a large physical difference. She is much taller and heavier. In addition she is not financially secure like I am. I think these differences are part of the attraction.
Does this wear out? Should I be looking for someone who has a different level of polish?
2006-11-15 10:50:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Complete opposites can get along. It's up to the both of you.
2006-11-15 10:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has to do with the "level of polish." Lots of older women are also blue collar, uneducated workers, too, as you put it. So that might not be the allure. And many women are unable to financially support themselved by choice, if they chose to stay home and raise their children.
This really only has to do with whether or not you love her.
From the sounds of it, it's tough to tell whether or not you really like her, or if it's the allure of being with someone younger and different. But if it's just because she's younger & different, it most likely will wear out, as you stated.
I have seen these relationships work. And I have seen them fail.
If they fail, usually it's because they are at different points in their lives, or have nothing in common.
2006-11-15 10:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you If you have to ask this question to someone else then this Is a problem for you or something that you have been tought.
Note In the future someone might say something abusive to you about this and that will test your relationship.
Also some people come from differant backgrounds,my relationship with a very smart woman,her dad was a professor at Yale and we get along just fine but there are times that her step mother says some abusive things to us,that Is why I asked you the first question,If you love her you wouldnt be asking you would be going forward,I am 51 and my lady Is 37,her dad made some jabs but we overcome them that Is true love.
I hope this helps you.
2006-11-15 10:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opposites attract but what about the long run. Is this someone who will want to watch the same shows as you, attend the same events. A partner should be your best friend and although you may be very physically attracted or even attracted to this persons personality it won't last forever. Be with someone with comon interests, find someone interesting even a little different but on the big issues you should be eye to eye. What are your parenting styles (hey it is an issue) , religion... take a minute and tink what this is going to be like 10 yrs down the road.
Best of luck! Sorry if you don't like my answer, just my opinion. ;)
2006-11-15 10:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by kizmet_or_beer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realy beleive it's the personality. Would you rather live with the woman of your life, who happens to be blue collar, and 'bigger' or a small sexy woman who is completely annoying and tiring? It's all your choice. If you find someone who realy is the love of your life, then yes. Although attraction is a big part of a relasionship, I'd much rather date a un-attracted man, who's kind, gental, and sweet. Than a man who is slim, greesy, rude, and mean.
2006-11-15 10:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to figure out if these are things you cant over look age to me is a bunch of crap I hang out with my dad and his Friends and their wives and g.f.'s and I don't fill out of place but if you are trying to be in a different place in your life you might find it better to surround your self with those in or going in the same direction as your self but it has nothing to do with her being a bad or no good person for you and you should make her fill comfort with that size can matter to some so if your uncomfty move on and don't waste each others time. I had a wake up call I found my Friends and myself being slackers and I couldn't change them so I just started to hang with my dad and his wife "my 2nd mom " and their Friends and I changed my life around but it was my choice good luck
2006-11-15 11:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know that she is not the ONE. Reading between the lines it appears that you think you are superior to her because she is blue collar. Having "no education" does not mean that she is not smart. I think she deserves someone who will not look down on her like you do.
2006-11-15 10:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Xandejo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so cause u 2 r so different u ready to leave. what if the polish is different also. what would u do then. aren't all relationship fill with pple who have different personality, that's what makes it exciting. why would u want to see 2 of u everyday.
2006-11-15 11:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you are financially secured older man, you have an uneducated, younger girl with no money, and you have nothing in common, does she stand to inherit anything should you pass away.
2006-11-15 10:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly Vic, I think it's all in the connection. If when you look at her you see size, weight and income, then yes, you should find someone else. If you look at her and see smiles, laughter, romance and you're happy, then no, these issues are not a problem and probably will fade.
However because you're asking, you should probably move on.
2006-11-15 10:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋