my mom died when i was born. and my dad has been taking care of me. im 11 years old. i came here because i need answers to my problem. my dad had been sad because my mom died and was never happy. he drunk alcolhol a lot. before he died i yelled at him and told him i hated him and i never did that before and dad killed himself! am i going to hell?
2006-11-15 10:48:48 · 20 answers · asked by John N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im sorry to hear that. Dont beat yourself up about. You couldnt of known he was going to to that. He needed help but you are only 11 so you couldnt help. I wonder why your family member didnt see this coming. It not your fault.
2006-11-15 10:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey
First of all, I am VERY sorry for you. It is such a hard situation to go through but get this into your head: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!!!
Your Dad had a lot to go through and some people just don't cope with pain, both of you were hurting, when we hurt, we say things we don't mean and I am sure deep down inside, you didn't mean it and your Dad knows that.
Secondly, people only go to hell if they don't accept Jesus as their Saviour
I wish you the best of luck kiddo!
We all love you!
2006-11-15 13:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault that your dad killed himself. He was probaly very upset of not having yor mother and was very hard to raise you by himself. You are not going to go to hell because it was not your fault. If you need someone to talk to go to a caring and close friend or a family member. Your dad loved you and you loved him that is the thing that counts. Anyway he is probly sitting with your mom right now watching you.
2006-11-15 11:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by sean h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you dad just had alot of pressure on him, so don't ever think that is was your fault, we all say some mean things from time to time, and people either deal with or the don't your dad to the coward way out, not to sound like I'm talking bad about him, I just think he didn't know what to do are who to turn to. Again no It's not your fault , so don't go around think that it is.
2006-11-15 16:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yOU HAVE NOT THE POWER TO KILL ANOTHER PERSON UNLESS YOU HAVE A WEAPON TO DO SO. YOUR FATHER CHOOSE TO DRINK, YOU HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT DECISION. SORRY THERE IS NO HELL, ONLY IN THE MINDS OF PEOPLE, THERE IS NO SUCH PLACE.. YOU ARE 11 YEARS OLD, YOU ARE NOT EXPECTED TO KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH A FATHER WHO WAS DEPRESSED AND DRUNK,. I HAVE LET YOU OFF THE HOOK FROM BLAMING YOURSELF, NOW LET YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK. THERE IS NO TRUTH IN YOUR STATEMENTS. THE TRUTH IS YOU ARE AN INNOCENT 11 YEAR OLD CHILD, WHO HAS BEEN SURROUNDED BY GREAT SORROW. SORRY YOU HAVE LOST YOUR MOM AND DAD IN THE FIRST 11 YEARS OF YOUR LIFE, BUT IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, LIGHTEN UP ON YOURSELF. YOU ARE PRECIOUS, AND ADORABLE. MAY YOUR LIFE BE FILLED WITH MUCH LOVE AND JOY
2006-11-15 11:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by bonnie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely devastating for you, im sure!! I am so sorry this happened to you! It is NOT your fault. People commit suicide because they have had problems for a long time, your father may have been feeling sad deep down inside, long before you were born.
2006-11-16 12:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't your fault that your dad killed himself. He was upset before you said anything. You are not going to go to hell. If you feel like this maybe you should talk to someone.
2006-11-15 10:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this must be so confusing and heart breaking thing for you but let me just say it is not you fault! with you mum dieing when you were born, there is nothing anyone could do about that, espeically not you! and with your dads death, thats not your fault, your dad desided himself that was what he wanted to do. dont blame yourself. we all say things that we dont mean when we are mad that we regret later...just stay strong and remember its not your fault! my friends friend killed himself a while ago and she blames herself but she should and you shouldnt either. i suggest going and talking to a conceller about all of this. you need to talk to someone because talking about it is probably one of the best things you can do! and your not going to hell because it wasnt your fault. i hope you can get through all this! <3
2006-11-15 10:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by ~lovelovelove~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel this was your fault IT WASN'T sometimes wen I was littller I used to think that I cauzed my parents to divorce - it wasn't my fault it was there own choosings You were both angry and hurt maybe you did say something that you didn't mean but you didn't make him kill himself you'll have to understand that and I know the divorce isn't the same as the death but its as close as I can get I wish you good luck and I hoped I helped
2006-11-15 10:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by Cntrygrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your dad was in his right state of mind when you said those things to him- those words would have inspired him to change for the better. I absolutely agree that his decision to end his life was not caused by your anger outburst. When a person commits suicide- it's because they want to end a pain from within. Make sure your pain doesn't manifest itself this way..... live life to the fullest- live it for three- for yourself, for your Dad and for your Mom. God bless.
2006-11-15 11:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋