I've know her 5 months and my girlfriend is naturally very quiet. It is a long distance relationship and i only get to see her about two days a week. I stopped visiting her for a month during the summer and during a recent tense discussion she brought this subject up.
I'm beginning to wonder if she loves me, she might be being assertive by saying "i don't know" as i read in a book it is good to say this.
2006-11-15 10:44:39 · 27 answers · asked by Leftfield fan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im assuming you are asking if she loves you? i can help with this! the deal is alot of women are affraid of being in love. its because over 60% of American's have come from a dissfunctional famlies. (sucks to be a 21'st century American) my ex-girlfriend who i believe is affraid of being in love just whouldnt say it ever. i said it one time because i was excited and she acted differnt than i'd prepared. my suggestion to you is to avoid "love"in perticular, instead tell her how much you care about her, and let her know shes the 'only one' shed appreciate that more! now i am not for sure hat she has come from a disfunctional family or home. lets say she comes from a functional family/home then she may have a different or alternetive perogative, she may be distracted, or unwilling to settle! there are many diffeent situations but the only one i can relate with is, fear of love!
2006-11-15 11:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by ADHD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be a little upset at you about something... Having a long distance relationship can be quite talented and requires alot of communication. I would know since I tried it with a guy that I was with for 3 years and it was difficult.. You should talk to her and ask her to tell you what she really is thinking that way it will help you and not end up getting worse... I hope this helps and best of luck!
2006-11-15 10:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Babygurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the "I don't know" is the problem here. Sounds to me like you're not a huge fan of the quite, shyness she has and also if you're wondering if she loves you, that can't feel very good.
I think you're looking for a reason to break up with her so save yourself the trouble with "I don't know" and know that you aren't happy with her and maybe there's simply someone else out there better suited for you.
And no, "I don't know" has nothing assertive about it.
2006-11-15 10:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have hurt her by taking a month off. Was there a good reason? Did you at least keep in touch? If you didn't then you were very inconsiderate. Now you just want to reappear like nothing happened? Not with a female! I think she is trying to hurt you back, and you better make the appropriate gesture(s) to make it up to her in any way you can. Strike one!
2006-11-15 10:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 3 1/2 years and remember my ex-wife constantly saying the same phrase. I finally was able to get it out of her and it turned out to be one simple reason. She does not want to say something that will upset you or maybe she feels that anything she says either comes out wrong or you automatically dog her on any answers that she comes up with. Try listening to her more and figure out if this is right. She might just need someone to listen to her.
2006-11-15 10:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to say that I don't know is not an answer and to tell you the truth and to quit stringing you along! That is the same advice I give my 12 yr old. Don't let her waste your time.. she is an adult and she should act like one.. if she cant give u a straight answer then u two need to go your separate ways.. then u will meet a more mature woman who can communicate!
Good Luck!
2006-11-15 10:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by michelle b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny that you ask that question. I do that almost every day to my boyfriend. I say the same thing. "I don't know" and it gets him mad. I don't do it to get him mad. Your girlfriend can be doing this for a few reasons. 1) she knows that you get mad real easy and or act mad or crazy 2) she don't want to hurt your feelings 3) she don't like to talk about emotions or feelings 4) or she needs time to answer your question. so easy way out is to say "I don't know" 5) or she just scared to say. I know I do the same thing,
2006-11-15 10:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that when she does know and can discuss it then give you a call. Sounds like the type of person who will not give an opinion, then complain when a decision is made
2006-11-15 10:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't feel comfortable telling you what she wants yet, or maybe she is just unsure of that herself at this point in time......tell you you'd like to hear the things she feels about it if she's undecided, (good, and bad) maybe you can talk about smaller details to help her make a decision. That way she can't back out of it..........she's inclined to answer!
2006-11-15 10:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't really care for whatever goes goes. Maybe she wants you to predict things and guess it out. Maybe she doesn't want to be too straight-forward because she is afraid she will let you down by answering it wrong. Or answering it in a dissatisfying way.
2006-11-15 10:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋