ok, both my hubby and I are terminally ill,we moved to a place we were led to believe would be less exspensive and mostly might help to save my husbands life,it is real bad,very high on everything no help I feel I am watching him die he is all I have it is cancer pls no mean replies I couldn't handle it now as I am so scared and stuck due to the climate I am loosing my ability to walk,please any serious answers would be so very welcome,thank-you and no pity we have always believed we would beat this but I am scared as he is so weak,sorry for this needed someone and have no family don't want him to see how terriffied I really am, forgive me this and thanks for reading I appreciate it so so much! Hugs!
2006-11-15 10:31:20 · 14 answers · asked by Carole B G 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
sorry I know I was not clear and I thank-you all for trying to help, I am in my 40's, my husband is alittle older,my question was how can I get someone to listen,the dr keeps seeing and saying he is getting worse but the lack of beds could be the loss of his life, this just seems so unfair,also some said to contact you I don't understand how,sorry pretty new to computer,oh I also have cancer again and now been diagnosed with ms,sorry not on a pity thing just needed a friend don't really have anyone here or elsewhere anymore as they passed away from cancer too,sorry and God Bless You, I did cry reading your replies but it meant so much you did care enough to reply! (((HUGS)))
2006-11-16 16:16:52 · update #1
You are not clear as to what your question is. You don't say how old you are. Death is something that we all face and that you are ill is very sad. I am sorry.
Depending on your ages, good communication with your husband is vital. I say this because different generations handle communication differently. If you have good communication, it's important that you find a way, perhaps with a counselor, to talk about your fears.
The fact is that we all die. When faced with this type of thing it's just more in our faces than when we age normally.
For your own fears, I suggest that you find a book called The Book by Alan Watts. It may give you some insights which you may put into practice.
You don't have to face this alone. Dealing with the reality that you are facing will take courage. Finding someone to talk to and a knowledgable person to speak with will help.
Communicate your feelings to your husband, if you can and take care of your own needs, too.
Be brave. Breathe deeply.
2006-11-15 10:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by vertically challenged 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your situation; but I could not exaclty read a question anywhere in your statement.
Are wanting to find a place that is cheap or an organization that can help you and your husband? I would contact a local hospital about organizations that may be able to help support those whom are in the same situation as yourself.
I hope you find what you are looking for; Trust in Jesus and both you and your husband shall have eternal life.
Tiffany
2006-11-15 10:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tiff 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart don't try to worry yourself. I know that your husband love u very much but if he see's ur weak he'll probly give up. You have 2 be stong 4 the both of you. God dosen't but to much on you that you can't bear. I had a cousin that I was close 2 growing up, and I watched him die of cancer. I tried 2 be at the hospital every day with him just 2 make his last days be rememberable. It hurted me 2 my heart 2 c him in so much pain, but I tryed. I know that a cousin can't compare 2 a loving husband but 2 me it's the same. All I know is laugh with him, sing 2 him and love him. Don't ever give up on him and he will not give up on you. p.s read a poem called don't QUIT GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES!!!!!!
2006-11-15 10:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
With absolutely no experience in what you are going through, I will offer you all I can: My hopes and prayers that someone here may be able to lead you in the right direction and that God will help you through this terrible time. All God's love and mercy to you and your husband.
2006-11-15 10:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by jare bare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a trusted friend with your problems. Then hug your husband and enjoy time with him. You can get through this if you believe you can. The important thing is to keep fighting and to stay happy.
Wishing you the best, <3
Alice
2006-11-15 10:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by itsALICE! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere in time you had a plan, so wherever you are now make another plan.
If you need some help, ask for it out right and direct.
Probably there are dozens of health care and community support organizations in the phone book. and churches too.
You got to ask. Just say it. Say the words "I need help"
2006-11-15 10:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by apup76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that that place the cancer centers of America is really good at helping people out and helping them with treatment and living options. Hope this helps
2006-11-15 10:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are in my prayers! I really hope you and your hubby feel better! Both my grandfathers died of cancer and my other grandmother got over it. All I can do is pray but i really hope you and your hubby become well!
2006-11-15 11:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you might think this sounds dumb, but talk to God, the one true one, in the name of Jesus. Pray about it and see what happens. He can work wonders!!!! if you need comfort my yahoo sn is jesusfreak2929. IM me
2006-11-15 10:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do me a favor, Im me under yahoo: Mi_rose_kt_84
My mother died from MD, and my grand mother died from cancer. So I have a few options that may help you.
2006-11-15 10:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by longm_84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋