2006-11-15 10:15:51 · 25 answers · asked by \ 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
How old is your son? Can't you stay at your parents? I do.
2006-11-15 10:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Alicat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.
I think the best thing you can do is try and think through rationally if you're scared of something actual, or something in your mind.
If you're scared of something actual (for example, your house being broken into) take steps to prevent that. Go NOW and check all the locks. Leave on the outside lights, and the inside ones if it makes you feel more secure. Close all the curtains and blinds. Maybe not this instant, but try and make friends with your trustworthy neighbours, and maybe discuss your problem. If you ever have an incident, it might help to have a neighbourhood group up and running. You will feel more secure if you know that you can call someone close in an emergency... even if you never have to.
An alarm system may make you feel more secure.
If you're still afraid of things that you can't identify, the important thing is to act AS IF you are brave and unafraid. This serves two purposes, one, it won't let your fear migrate to your son, and two, it will actually make you feel less afraid.
Look on these occasions as time to spend with your son - celebrations rather than something to be afraid of. Get out DVDs that you both might enjoy. Make plans together for a family outing that you'll all do when your husband is home. Start planning a surprise gift for him for Christmas, that you can ONLY work on when he's not there.
Embrace your alone time, and make it something to look forward to, and with all your security issues in place, start reclaiming your nights! Sometimes it is sensible to be cautious, but there is no need to have to live in fear.
2006-11-15 18:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Greta B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remember to lock all your doors and windows and really there is nothing to be afraid of, you can get an alarm system installed. But other than that if you dont act freaked then your son wont sense anything is wrong, and depending on his age play with him and get him to hang out with you more, to take your mind off the part that makes you be scared or think that you can't sleep. The sleep part is caused from the anticipated stress, and as long as you keep yourself busy through out the day-- look into doing crossword puzzles or watch a movie, soduku, or some less stress activity to preoccupy your mind. Good luck.
2006-11-15 18:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by RockerChick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What gives you the impression that there are bad people at your door? Do you live in the part of the country with the world's highest crime rate? Have you seen people outside? Have you been threatened?? OR have you been watching too much Crimewatch? Or have you been frank in posting this to the mental health section, and know that you are unjustly paranoid, maybe out of depression?
No one here can convince you that you are safe, and to be honest, sods law may just turn around and bite us in the bum if we all tried to say to you that you are safe, but lets be honest the odds of someone breaking in are very low indeed, and all you will be doing is scaring your son.
I take it this is the first time your hubby has done this, if so, do you not have a family member that can spend a night or two to ease you into this?
Best of luck, and I'm sure you'll be OK
2006-11-15 18:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same situation tonight. My hubby is helping move his parents out of town and will be staying the night over there. Im not used to being alone, I have the kids and all, but doesnt really help. What has worked in previous occasions is staying on comp till your eyes get tired, read a book, or lie down on the couch and watch t.v. till you fall asleep. Good Luck, ill be awake tonight just like you and ill be thinking if you still are awake lol
2006-11-15 18:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by skybluebabyboo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure everything is locked, alarm set if you have one, leave a light on such as bathroom, kitchen, landing, or a small lamp. Take yourself off to bed with a cup of tea or coffee and a book or magazine, read for a while or until you drop off. The way I see it is once you have got over the first few nights it will get easier. You will be fine, try not to worry, as depending on the age of your son you may start to make him scared too.
Good luck
2006-11-15 18:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not sure why you are alone you have your son ..... i think i know your lad get him to invite me round and i will look after you ....either that i have made a mistake in which case listen to the above advice but get a Doberman or buy cliff richards xmas album that will keep the burglars away or if you cant sleep go and buy the best goals scored by chelsea ..... PS ..also helps if you dont live in a black neighbour hood as crime seems much higher with these people ...
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2006-11-15 20:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by mrqprfc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like to sleep in a house without my husband either. I make sure all the doors and windows are locked, the alarm is set and then I lock my bedroom door and turn on the fan. You could try a radio or leaving the TV on low also.
2006-11-15 18:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sunnee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mum always used to leave a light on, had second locks on all the doors and a really BIG stick under her bed, and something she could clobber intruders with hidden in easy to grab places in each room.
get a chain fitted on your front door, and ask the fire service and police if they offer home security and safety checks. In Hertfodrshire these are free, best to ask.
2006-11-15 18:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by mittobridges@btinternet.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave some light turned on all night and the TV or some relaxing music...
And just try to pretend he is there, taking a shower os something...fear just makes things worse.
2006-11-15 18:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Annelise 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try a reassuring phone call with him before bed. play soothing music. lock the house up. keep your phone by your bed in case you're scared and need to call someone. leave a light on in the house to feel secure so intruders outside think there's someone awake inside.
2006-11-15 18:25:09 · answer #11 · answered by cy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋