My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. We've been through our ups and downs like a normal couple but now if an issue arrives it's like he think it's gonna go away by it's self. And if I try to talk to him about the issue at hand it's like he blows me off(let it go thru one ear out the other).It's like our relationship is going downhill. He gets mad over the simpliest things now, we don't talk like we used to, we don't go out and/or have fun like we used to and the sex is horrible now.(one mintue man)I ask him all the time is there anyone else, is he tired of me or do he wants to see other people, but the answer is always no or he'll try to flip it on me like that's what I want to do. He's ask me to marry me 4 times and the last time he asked was last weekend.(I told him I don't think we're ready)I love him with everything inside of me but lately it's gotten to the point where I don't like him anymore. Honestly, it doesn't feel like I'm in a relationship anymore.
2006-11-15 10:11:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the relationship is shaky why is he proposing? Have you asked him this question?
Have you asked him if he feels the relationship isn't as great as it could be?
All relationships go thru ups-and-downs but it sounds as if yours is aimed downward and sinking fast. If you really feel that you don't want to remain in the relationship you should leave. But it must be your decision.
No one can say 'go' or 'stay' because no one is in the relationship and viewing everything from your POV. You have to do what you want to do on your terms. It sounds as if (in your mind) you've already kissed the relationship goodbye...now all you need to do is actually take the physical steps and walk away.
2006-11-15 10:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try couples counseling to see if that helps anything. You know relationship are all about bouncing with the changes. You are always going to grow and change as a person because of the things that happen in life. If you can't make it through the changes as a couple then your relationship is doomed. Remember try not to focus on feelings so much. Feeling come and go I know I have been married for 7 years. It is commitment that makes a marriage work.
2006-11-15 18:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Glee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's time to move on. Especially if he is not paying attention to you. That normally means he is interested in someone else. Maybe he does not want to hurt you and does not know how to tell you. You should suggest time away from each other. If you guys are meant for one another you will get back but if you don't just move on. It will hurt at first because you've been together for so long. But before you know it everything will heal. Good Luck!!
2006-11-15 18:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yuck, that sounds gross. Do you live together? Perhaps you could try a few months apart, seeing other people. I had a friend who didn't speak/see/call ect. her significant other for a month. Then they got together to discuss what their next move should be. Sounds like you need a little clarity that perhaps only separation can give.
2006-11-15 18:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by meg d 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love
2006-11-15 18:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may need to move on you've been in this relationship for 3 years and its going downhill already there is only so much you can do to save it, especially since you are the only partner who is taking steps to resolve the issues and try to make it better...
2006-11-15 18:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give him an ultimatum...if you are putting in all the effort that's not fair to you. First of all, ask him if he wants to be with you at all, he might not. My boyfriend was with his last girlfriend for three years and he said the last year he was only with her because he was used to her and didn't break up with her just because of that. Ya'll might have fallen into a routine, you need to get the spark back. but if he is not willing to put in effort, tell him you're done.
2006-11-15 18:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by celina m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your not asking a question here. Your telling us all you need to get out...............so listen to your own words and get out why there is still a good portion of your heart left to offer to someone else when you meet them!
Go for it. Sounds like it's what you need.
2006-11-15 18:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just need time apart, you can figure out what you want and maybe he can too. I know you love him, but you don't want to spend the rest of your life living like that.
2006-11-15 18:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just stop. you are not actually in love with him anymore, and he is probably not in love wit you anymore either. part ways, now instead of later, it will be easier than the divorce you are setting yourself up for.
2006-11-15 18:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋