I have two sisters. My older sister & I don't get along. My younger sister & I have always gotten along and been very close. For the last 4 years, they have lived in San Fran and my little sister has worked for my older sister as her nanny/housekeeper. Recently, my younger sister decided to move to Seattle to pursue a degree at Univ. of Wash. When she got here, she got depressed and wanted to go back to Cali. Both my sisters have a history of mental illness (older sister-depression, younger sister-anxiety). Now neither of them will talk to me, because they blame me for this whole thing. I'm left here wondering what the heck I did wrong. I expect this from my older sister, but not from my younger sister. I think she needs to seek some professional help to deal with her anxiety, but she refuses and now won't talk to me.
What should I do? I feel so helpless.
2006-11-15 10:09:59 · 2 answers · asked by seattlecutiepie 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My son suffers from anxiety, he sometimes blames something I did on how he feels, but even he's admitted that deep down inside he knows this is not true, he knows the logic behind things and that he shouldnt feel the way he does, but he can not help it. She could be blaming you because you are someone safe, someone that will still be there for her regardless. The kind of anxiety she suffers would make a difference as well. It's hard to make someone suffereing a mental illness seek help. First they have to admit they have a problem.
You said you didnt get on with your older sister, could she have had some kind of influence on how your younger sister is towards you now?
2006-11-15 10:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is wait for your little sister to comes around. Send her a short letter telling her you are not sure what happended and hope she would be able to explain her feelings. but then say you understand if she needs some space but you will always be there for her and you are proud of her and love her. then thats it. it up to her to make the next move.
and a I dont think a relationship between sisters is ever too damaged to be repaired so keep that in mind with your older sister. this might be the right time for you to reach out to her- who knows, maybe she really does want you in her life, she just doesnt know how to communicate that.... good luck
2006-11-15 18:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋