#1 Been with for 10 months. We moved in after 2 months. We are 9 years apart. Our relationship was romantic 1st month then died slowly after that. We've begun to fight a lot cause I worry and care too much and his job makes him work 24/7 so I am always home alone. And our sex has gone down to almost nothing. He does everything he can for me ie buy me things to keep me happy. But now I realize money doesnt buy happiness.
#2 Met at my job. He is a vendor that works here occasionally. We have hit it off...same age, same interest. When I see him he makes me smile and laugh. He tells me everyday he wants to be with me and take care of me, but he knows that I have a hard decision to make. And whatever way I decide; he will still be my friend.
I care for them both. But dont want to hurt anyone, but know I have to. If you where in this position what would you do?
2006-11-15 10:09:14 · 10 answers · asked by MsLysa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have told #1 that I feel lonely and that the relationship has gone down... He just say do what you have to do...
2006-11-15 10:16:39 · update #1
i have been in your situation before and it is a very hard decision to make. maybe you should talk to guy #1 first and find out what's going on if he still feels the same about you that he did when you 2 first got together and 2 let him know that u appreciate the things that he does for you but money isn't what makes u happy. if you really love him and want to be with him then let him know that. if he says there is nothing to talk about then tell him that u feel as though maybe u guys jumped into things a little to fast and that u feel as though you 2 should take some time apart to figure out what you both want. as far as guy #2 is concerned let him know what you are going through right now and until you can sort things out the main thing that you really need right now is a really good friend. in other words don't tell the future let the future tell itself. i really hope things work out for you in the end. i'm just like you i don't like to hurt ppl either but i have found out that one way or another its going to happen. good luck
2006-11-15 10:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by drmctchr2527 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known #2? I don't want to be overly critical but is it possible you moved in with # 1 too fast. Why do you think your experience with 2 will be any different than with 1 over time? I would seek to find fulfillment within myself and not from other people and then decide on a partner, I would just take longer and not rush into anything.
2006-11-15 10:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by jim t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If guy #1 isn't working for you and you are unhappy then you need to be fair to the both of you and not drag the relationship around forever. I would suggest sitting down with guy #1 and talk things through, if things can not be resolved then tell him that you need to end the relationship. Then you can explore things further with guy #2. Best of luck in whatever you decide!
2006-11-15 10:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably #2 seeing as how you and #1 don't really like each other anymore. I bet #1 has a girlfriend in another town,just to let you know! But, anyways, #2 seems like a great guy!! Just don't jump his bones and move in with him right away, take it slow. Learn from your mistakes from guy #1!!
Good Luck!!
2006-11-15 10:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you need to think long and hard about who you're in love with it. Has it completely died with your current guy? If so, then move on. If you want to try and work things out, then try. There's no guarantee things will last with the new guy.
2006-11-15 10:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by skichamonix515 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to live your life for you, not what is going to be ok for someone else. Let guy ! down easy and give guy 2 a shot but dont start off too serious at first.
2006-11-15 10:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick #2 because he seems better for you and, heres more advise dont date 2 guys at the same time!
2006-11-15 10:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by amber s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell #1 that I feel lonely and that I need to feel better because I am starting to think it's over!
2006-11-15 10:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by peace2all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should choose the second guy, cuz the first one like you said, the relationship has pretty much died, so move on and date the second guy.
2006-11-15 10:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#2, easy, same interests.
2006-11-15 10:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Grant C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋