for treating me like a doormat?
2006-11-15 09:56:50 · 14 answers · asked by bansri47 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Revenge isn't the best policy. You'll just go back and forth with retalitation and then end up on Judge Judy stating your case. :-D
Try talking to your roommate about your concerns. Reach a happy medium.
If that doesn't work move out - but if you are bound by a lease or agreement with your roommate see if they will allow you to move without holding you liable for lease/household expenses. If they won't oblige - then put your feelers out for someone looking for a residence. If you find a suitable replacement to move-in and assume your lease obligation then your current roommates should let you move out.
2006-11-15 10:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's tempting, but revenge isn't the answer, especially if you have to live with these people. I think it would be more effective to sit them down and just have a discussion about whatever is bothering you, and maybe you could also think up some solutions to the problem so you can lay it all out for them. I have a roommate, and he's a great guy, very helpful, etc. but every now and then he will do something like take my wet laundry out of the washer and set it on top of the dryer instead of throwing it in the dryer himself, and then my freshly washed stuff dries all weird and crispy and I have to re-do it. Stuff like that. But he really is a good friend and a nice person, and I don't want living with him to become a nightmare, so instead of get mad and throw things like I wanted to, I asked him nicely if he wouldn't mind not doing that anymore. I think you're just having a communication problem with them. If you can't resolve it with a friendly chat about what's going on, you'd probably be better off just finding new roommates.
2006-11-15 18:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what they're doing exactly. Are they expecting you to do all the work? point it out to them. You might set up a chore cheet so that people can write down what they did when they did it- and if there's an imbalance, it'll be immediately obvious.
Are they being really loud when you have to sleep for work or class in the morning? You guys might have to talk about times when it's good to have people over and be social.
Are there an odd number of people in your house? If there are, there's usually someone who gets kind of left out when everybody pairs off, and if that's true, it sounds like it might be you. there is no cure for this. Best to get out of intolerable situations if you can.
2006-11-15 18:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by kivrin9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say they are treating you like a Doormat!!! Well I think that You should be the one that stands up to them and tell them how you feel!!!
No one can force you to be something you don't want to be..revenge will not help the situation...Just tell them that you are not going to let them treat you like this anymore...show them you will only respect those who respect you....
2006-11-16 22:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sew seafood into their curtains ;)
Either that or get them back with a pile of practical jokes... Hide their belongings in the roof... fill their pillows with shaving cream... short-sheet their beds... place ads in newspapers for selling their things with their phone numbers...
Make the best of a bad situation :)
2006-11-16 01:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by kirstalina81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing everything wrong. Leave your milk in the fridge too long so that when they go to drink it it's rotten. When they borrow your clothes start putting all your clothes in their laundry baskets. ;)
Or a better plan would probably be to just talk to them about it. Maybe they don't even realize. Good luck.
2006-11-15 18:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by incognito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You thought of finding other roommates? Or moving out on your own? Or just not doing the things they're expecting of you? Take care of your stuff and leave theirs?
2006-11-15 18:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahhh,, a dorm war. Memories, memories.
Lots of ways....
- Collect ALL their underwear, soak in water and put in freezer.
- Sneak in the bedroom while they sleep and pour warm water near their crotch on the bed. Extra points if it is urine.
- tempra paint in the shower head
-itching powder (ground fiberglass) in the jock strap, panty, bra or other sensitive article of clothing
-dog sh!t on their bedroom carpet, in their favorite food in the fridge (a floater in the OJ?)
Car wars:
-ripe cheese on the radiator or engine block
- rocks in nthe hubcaps
2006-11-15 18:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you the one paying the bills? Are they in your name? Cancel them. (Don't let them lapse, just cancel them.) It worked for me ;) Get used to not having water and electricity, but it gets the point across right away.
2006-11-15 21:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by katya_annalotovich_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either step up & say somthing 2 them or cause trouble 4 them!.!
2006-11-15 18:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋