I am in a bind, me and my father and stepmother do not get along for very personal reasons. They emailed my boyfriend and basically b!tched him out about his and that, and basically said that he wasnt good enough for me, and he was a no good sob and deserved his life to be hell, in which is already is. He is trying to get his life back together, well after reading all this and having time to think about it. He decided that it would be best if he just break up with me. Meaning everything that we worked for as a team to prove to my father just went down the drain. My stepmother said that he wasnt worthy enough for me, and it some how brainwashed him into believeing it as well. Basicaly my stepmother got her way what she wants she gets its always been that way, any advice on how I can keep him and what to do with the father and stepmother besides wanting to k!ll them. (figure of speach)
2006-11-15 09:32:48 · 3 answers · asked by Snowflakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 20, my father and stepmom live in Tx. Thank god. But they make our lives hell by emailing, calling, and other things.
2006-11-15 09:37:07 · update #1
Your parents have to learn that you're no longer a child and can make decisions for yourself. They no longer have any say in your life, especially when it comes to who you can and cannot see.
If the only means of "interuption" that your parents have are by emails and phone calls, then the only way they are controlling your life is because you're LETTING them.
You need to sit down and talk to both your ex and your parents. Your parents need to know that you're an adult and will see who you want to see. They need to know that your ex is trying really hard at getting back on his feet and you don't appreciate the fact that they aren't supporting you (or him). That's what parents are for when you become an adult - support. And your parents need to know they aren't giving you any and you don't appreciate it.
Your ex needs to know that you spoke with your parents and tell him what you said to them. He'll really appreciate the fact that you stood up against your parents to defend the relationship.
You also need to support your ex in whatever struggle he's in right now and continue to be there for him.
Trust me ... he'll notice.
2006-11-16 11:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when having children growing up in your household, its hard letting them go. We remember them as still being kids and only want the best of them in life because we have lived ours and know its hard. so were very protective who our kids date. We have a habit of looking at ones background and running them off if theres something there. if your boyfriend trust in you and you only and is faithful and you two honest with one another i believe things will work.
2006-11-15 17:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until u are 18 then u can do anything u want
until then--we must abide by their rules
2006-11-15 17:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋