My husband and I were just married, and are talking about having kids. Once in a while we come up with ideas for names. One time he told me that he wanted to name a girl Celeste. I like the name but, what he didn't tell me(I found out later) was that Celeste is the name of one of his crushes/ex girlfriend. I know how it feels to be named after an ex. My dad named me after one of his ex girlfriends, and I found out when I was 15. It makes you feel like crap, being named after someone like that. How do I tell himthe truth without him knowing that I don't want him to name our children after his exes?
2006-11-15 09:24:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing to do is sit him down, and calmly explain how you feel. Don't make alot of references, etc. Just be plain and honest. Most guys don't understand what a woman is saying half the time, and this is no place for that. I'm a guy, I know. Tell him about the name Celeste, and why you don't want it. There are alot of names out there to chose from, surely you can find some common ground. Just make sure it's equal, that noone is named after a guy you know also. Tell him the truth, and that you don't want your kids named after an ex/crush. If he's a decent guy, he'll understand.
2006-11-15 09:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by Eric B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, are you sure it is really an EX or was it just a crush? IF it was really just a crush, maybe he was crushing on her name only????
But anytime a couple bring any part of an ex relationship into a marriage, once the other one grows up and realizes it's not cool, the relationship will probably suffer in one form or another.
GO buy a baby names book or search the net.
2006-11-15 09:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him NO! Marriage is about compromise but c'mon, where does his ex come into the picture of his relationship with you. That's not cool! That's actually down right disrespectful of him to even think of that. Not to mention what it will do to your kids. It affected my mom the same way to know she was named after her fathers mistress. She never allowed anyone to call her by her birth name. Expalin that to him as best as you can.
2006-11-15 09:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that naming your children is such an important choice for both of you to make, and that out of your feelings for him that you would not want to name your boy after an ex boyfriend of yours, so it would seem only fitting if he could respect your wishes not to have your girl named after his ex
2006-11-15 09:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that sounds like a good idea. If and when you have children get him out of the room and tell the nurse or whoever has the birth certificate what you want to name your child.
2006-11-15 09:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, the two of you are-MARRIED! He made a lifetime vow to love and honor you all the days of your life. If you dont feel comfortable naming one of your children after one of his exes, then he should honor that.
2006-11-15 09:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you wrote here.
YOu have a ligitamate reason to feel the way you do so just be honest with him, im sure hel understand
2006-11-15 09:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by hopeincubus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some balls and tell him striaight out that its not going to happen like that. You both come up with names you both like and have nothing to do with your exs.
2006-11-15 09:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him...you both have to agree on a name if he's insistant tell him if its a boy you're going to name him after your ex
2006-11-15 09:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by superstorrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, I find that a lot of marriages end because lack of communication.
2006-11-15 09:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by adgshanice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋