I met a girl at an old job of mine, we have since both moved on, but within the first couple days of hardly knowing one another, she gave me her number, would call me for close to two hours at a time and just talk to me continously.
She would also call to see how I was doing. Now she has a bf who she tells me she is faithful to but basically has a lot of pain in his life and gets insecure. So we'd talk alot about the job we were at, random things then we stop talking for a long time, then she'd call me on Thanksgiving to wish me the best, and then we'd stop talking then she called me and we talked for 5 hours long!
Then a couple nights later, for 2 hours long and when I'd miss her calls she'd tell me to call her whenever that night because she'd be up late. Now she hasn't called me in a while....and last time we talked she told me about her bf, how she couldn't stand him sometimes.
What's this?
Should I ask her to my work's xmas party?
2006-11-15 09:20:54 · 12 answers · asked by heymanchase 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like u are a "friend" to her
but yes, it can't hurt to ask her---all she can do is say no, right?
2006-11-15 09:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite apart from the fact that if the two of you spend soooo many wasted hours on the telephone, you've both got way too much time on your hands, I think there's something just a little bit wacky about this female. I mean, where are this woman's girlfriends? She seems to be using YOU for her "emotional garbage bin"- talking to you about the kind of stuff that girls usually talk to their female friends about.
I've got a natural built-in radar that always seems to be able to pick up on people with something not quite "copacetic" going on in their brains, and the buzzers and flashing lights are going off with this gal. I don't understand why you a re even bothering with her, never mind actually thinking of inviting her to any christmas party. If I were in your shoes, I'd be changing my phone number and even the locks on my door, LOL.
2006-11-15 17:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's having problems with her boyfriend, she might just be looking for another guy to confide in. She's could just be looking for someone to listen to her. Girls need someone to talk and express themselves to. You're probably a really good listener.
Her calling all the time does not really mean she wants anything more than friends. However, you might be her back-up if she breaks up with her boyfriend.
It sounds like she looks at you as only a friend. If I were you,
I wouldn't ask her to the xmas party.
2006-11-15 17:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by no_butches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are her 'get away' guy. She feels that there is something missing from her relationship, so she runs to you for fulfillment. I don't want you to interfere with their relationship, but if you have feelings for her tell her so and that you want to give her space so she can figure out what she wants. It sounds like she's not happy but doesn't have the balls to do anything about it. I wouldn't ask her to the Christmas party because it could result in her being unfaithful to her current boyfriend. Be respectful and help her to do so also.
2006-11-15 17:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she always was interested in you. The boyfriend might just be a sideguy because she was lonely. She is venting to you maybe hoping you will "rescue" her or tell her to break it off with him. Just ask her to the Christmas Party. If she says no it doesn't sound like you will lose a great friendship but you might gain a new best friend!
2006-11-15 17:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by iseeastar2323 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't ask her out at this point. Right now she is using you as a security blanket and is not sure what she wants. Where is her bf when she is talking to you for hours on end? He should be her first concern and the one she talks to for hours, if she feels that he is a loser than she needs to end things with him. One way to know for sure what is on her mind when it comes to her friendship with you is to ask. If you had a gf would you want her talking to another guy for hours at a time? She sounds confused right now, be careful with your heart.
2006-11-15 17:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by ladyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she has a bf.
She's wasting your time and using you to make up for what he lacks. If her bf was really so bad, she'd break up with him.
Don't ask a girl who has a boyfriend on a date to a party. She might say yes, and then not show up if her boyfriend finds out she has a date with another guy.
2006-11-15 17:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt ask her out for anything. This girl has issues and she obviously cares about the guy shes with or she wouldnt be with him. She only calls you when hes not around. Why would you want someone who is already with someone,,and no matter what she says about him,,remember she with him and not you. So that should tell you something right there. Find someone who will want to be with you and only you.
2006-11-15 17:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is unsure of her current relationship and so she is trying to connect with someone she has things in common with. I went through the same thing with a guy, i'm ashamed to say, and in the end i stayed with my boyfriend. so if you keep talking to her, try to remember that until her current relationship is completely over nothing that is truly fulfilling and good for you can come of it. don't quit looking, you'll find someone who has their undivided attention to give! best of luck
2006-11-15 17:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by CASSONDRA D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if yall talk on the phone alot.you should ask her to come but only if you want to.
goodluck!
2006-11-15 17:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by advisitory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋