My bf and I have been dating for over two years. For reasons I don't wish to get into on her, I snooped into his email - the first and only time I've done that. While in the email, I saw that he wrote the following email to somebody:
"Hey - remember me? We hooked up about a year ago... fun times, we f$#%ed and moved your bed all over your room. You game for another round?
Let me know-"
I confronted him with this. He said that he never slept with this guy. That he was just talking dirty and that it was so long ago that he was going on the idea the guy wouldn't remember what happened. He says he's never cheated on me, not once. That he was only responding to this guy who used to constantly email him. Then, last night, he was drunk and just decided to email him to talk dirty like that.
I don't know what to think/do. We live together. We were planning on moving to a different city when our lease is up. He's told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
2006-11-15 09:18:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm proud of you for snooping into the email. That being sacred territory with locks and keys is ridiculous. Mail was always on the table, the phone, etc. This internet is RIDICULOUS!
2006-11-15 10:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you can't violate the privacy of someone you care about like that. While the note was incriminating, you had no right to find it. If every inside joke and every racy comment you ever made was laid bare for the world to see, I'm sure you wouldn't be smelling like roses either.
That said, he probably cheated on you last year. You can either give the relationship another chance and try a hell of a lot harder to behave respectfully to one another, or you can throw it away. He might have violated your trust in a massive way, and you definitely violated his trust in a significant way as well. That tells me this relationship might not have been too sound to begin with.
Just believe me this: you mustn't stay together because you live together or because you're worried about his feelings. Only if you believe that this relationship can once again make you feel safe and happy should you continue it.
2006-11-15 17:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just online talking dirty to somebody, theres nothing to worry about. As far as getting drunk and doing the same thing its just part of being drunk you tend to have different reactions and remember things or something, but like i said you shouldnt worry about it, its just talking dirty to another person over the internet. I hope this helps and i wish you best of luck.
2006-11-15 17:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well someone who wants to spend the rest of his life with you, wouldn't be drunk e-mailing people about wanting to **ck. Especially after you had caught him before. Chances are he did cheat and is lying about it now, I mean how many e-mails do you send out like that? I would take some time away from this guy. Sorry hun.
2006-11-15 17:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to spend the rest of his life with you then what is he doing talking to this other person. It is not okay. I have been married for 7 years. My husband makes no new girl/friends not because I asked him to, but because he thinks it is disrespectful to me. I wouldn't tolerate these dirty talking emails. You might have to rethink this relationship. Especially if it is hurting you and he doesn't care. Good Luck.
2006-11-15 17:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Glee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie he is lying to you. It's obvious he got caught and of course he lied about it.
If I were you I would be worried about ST D's if he is carrying on in this way and I suggest you go get checked out.
What an a.s.s.hole! Putting you at risk like this!
Do you not think you deserve someone who will be faithful to you? If he is carrying on like this he obviously has no respect for you or the relationship. Get out while u can!
Good luck!
2006-11-15 17:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was u, i would say... now i'm only going to ask you this once. are you telling me the truth? if u want to spend the rest of your life with me then we shouldn't start this out with a big lie. i really need to know.
but in my opinion he is lying to u
2006-11-15 17:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Amber M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can trust him. Whatever he would do when he is drinking, he has been thinking about when he is sober. No trust...no relationship. Don't throw your life away. You deserve better.
2006-11-15 17:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie the proof is right in front of you. you know what the answer is.
2006-11-15 17:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he cheated on you he's not worth it.
2006-11-15 17:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋