I'm always concerned about my sister because she's always in bad moods and always yelling. A few months ago she was prescribed medecine for her depression?(some emotional thing) Well, she's 14. Today I was snooping around in her room(becuase she never tells me anything) and I found a suicide note. She said how she was a mistake and she loves her friends. She said that she loves me even though she never shows it and she loves everyone. I showed it to my mom and she's calling my sister's phycologist. I'm really scared. I love her and I don't want her to be mad at me. I'm just sad and scared. I'm 13 and I really am too young for this.
RE: I have some homework and 2 tests to study for and I stopped crying, but when I hear my mom cry, I just cry all over again. I feel like this is my fault for finding it. I feel like she already commited. I just really don't want this.
2006-11-15 09:18:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You posted a similar question a little while ago and got lots of helpful answers. If those didn't do it for you, I think you need to stop looking for the answers here online. Get off the computer and go talk to your mom. You probably need to talk to a counselor, but mom is a good start. This is a big problem and no one on this board can give you the help you need.
2006-11-15 09:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by LisaT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame yourself for any of this. You didn't create this situation, your sister did and nothing you do will change her.
You did the right thing showing your mother the note. Most people who commit suicide talk about it and write a note ahead of time. You just saved her life. Don't worry if she is mad. She'll get over it and thank you in the future. For now, she isn't thinking clearly and is probably mad at everyone anyway.
Your sister needs more than a call to the doctor. She is at the point where she needs hospitalized. Please ask your mother to call the doctor back and insist your sister be put into a hospital for treatment. (if that isn't already happening) Your sister may not be taking her medicine or may need a higher dose. In the meantime, she need to be watched and this is more than your family is equipped to handle.
Just remember, she'll get over being mad. But she won't get over committing suicide. You did a great and brave thing. But you also have to take care of yourself - grades - the best you can during this time. Think of it as getting good grades for your mom - so she doesn't have something else to stress about!!
2006-11-15 09:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through depression like this sweety but if her physcologist perscribed her something you might want to be aware of the side effects believe it or not there are depression pills our there that actually has the side effect of commiting suicide, My sis went to a physcologist and recommended something also but my mom said the heck with it and left that place and never went back my sis is doing alot better now, if anything what you and mom need to do is have a talk with her there has got to be a reason why sis is up to this and just remember tell her how much you love her and dont say anything to piss her off love is the best tool to use in a situation like this and let her know she is to young to die like this and i really hope everything works out for the best of you guys.
2006-11-15 09:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't blame yourself. You're already doing a lot to help your sister and did the right thing by trying to get her some help. Medication for depression is not always an exact science and maybe her medication is making her feel worse, so it's very good that the right people were alerted. Your sister won't be hauled away and committed like in the movies.
Even if she never takes you up on it, be sure to let your sister know that you're there to talk about anything, anytime she wants. It sounds like you're a very brave and responsible person and you're doing the right thing!
2006-11-15 09:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by apparition_einstein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. more hormones are shooting through both of you that it could power a home
2.prescriptions were a bad idea to use to solve the "apparent" problem that evrybody that age has; growing up at different speeds in different areas of the body
3.she is beleiving the crap she hears from people that don't have a clue about anything they say
4.she needs to start eating right;meat,potatos,vegetables
5.she has a family that rifles through her room
6.she has no idea how gorgeous she is, and won't realize it for another 3 or 4 years
7.she writes things, just like every teenager since cave drawings
8.she might even leave things in her room to test the reliability and trust of family members since that is the only world that has anyone else she can trust
9. she has been told "other drugs are bad, but these, that you are to take, are good because they came from a doctor"
10.at 14 she has been told to take drugs, has her room searched, is forced to go talk to an adult male about the most personal things in her life, has friends that are switching from being around girls to being with a boy, which abandons the other girls, is going from baby fat to woman, which is a time for patience and solitude in order to be mentally prepared for what is ahead - maybe she wants to be left alone until she is aware of her beauty and the power it holds
2006-11-15 09:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by hell oh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, I'm feel for you... My sister who is 3 years older than me went through depression when my parents divorced when I was 10, 3 years ago. My sister basically dropped out of school, and had an emotional break down.. Listen, you need to talk to your counsellor, your Mom, grandma, friend, anyone but be on-line.. Go talk to someone who can give you a hug!
Blessings,
Karina
2006-11-15 10:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although the "snooping" isn't cool, I have a feeling your sister may have actually wanted someone to find that note. If she already has a psychologist, then they need to be made aware of this...it's the best thing you can start to do to help your sister.
However...your sister wrote the note...NOT YOU...DON'T BLAME YOURSELF. You may even wish to talk to a psychologist yourself...it certainly couldn't hurt!
Good luck to you and your family...I hope all works out OK.
2006-11-15 09:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive read many times that antidep. in teens increases the risk of suicide. Excercise and strong family support (showing u love the person unconditionally and always showing your affection and love to the person) also help depression w/out drugs and of course no side effects. Another thing is that many kids arouns 12-15 may act this way for attention b/c if they feel they arent getting enough positive attention they seek it negatively.
2006-11-15 09:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by danielle f 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be glad to know that girls (while they have the highest rate of suicide threats) hardly ever follow through on suicide threats or notes. I'd say the note is just something she wrote when she was feeling down.
2006-11-15 09:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by absens_heros 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, you did the right thing. Don't question yourself.
Your sister will probably be mad at you for now. But she'll forgive you later.
It's not your fault. It's not your sister's fault. It's no one's fault.
2006-11-15 09:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋