Okay so I met this guy who is a few years younger than me. Since the first day I met him he calls me every morning and every night. I've only known him for a week. We've been out on one date and we have another date planned for this weekend. He says he wants to spend as much time with me as I allow him to.I've been hurt before and want to take things slow. He says he's okay with it and that he'll wait for me. Now I'm not naive enough to fall for the game. But how do I know if he's really sincere or just waiting until he gets some from me then cut and run.
2006-11-15 09:18:41 · 29 answers · asked by Heaven26 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has a pulse, he wants nookie. And he should, if he is normal. YOU should, too.
It is not something to give out to everyone who wants it. Or every time some idiot smiles at you. There would be a line around the block.
How young? Are you 15 and he is 10? Are you 20 and he is 15?
Forget him. Date adults.
When you are young a couple of years is a LOT! There is a mountain of difference between an 18 year old girl and an 18 year old boy. An 18 year old girl = 22 year old guy.
15 year old girl=17 year old boy.
Boys don't catch up until they are about 26-29-honest.
If you are 16 and he is 15, he is really = to about 12 emotionally.
I know grown men who are still 12. Old men. 12!
Decide for yourself if YOU like HIM. You are in charge, because YOU have the brain.
My best advice is to never put out before you have gone on 16 dates. That way, you can weed out the users. They will not stick around to nail you. They will move on to easier girls. Girls who give it up for a smile or a taco.
If you wait, you have a chance to GET to KNOW the person you are getting naked with. You just make it a rule, that you have to have 16 dates. It will make you proud, that you don't get bashed around for a little nookie.
You didn't say whether you like HIM or not. Don't allow anyone to hang out with you, that YOU don't like. No matter what he says or if you feel sorry for him or anything. You are in charge of your time.
If you aren't attracted to him, cut him loose now.
It's better to be alone, than to use someone for "company."
If you do like him, too, , make both of you wait to find out if you have OTHER things in common besides nookie. Find that out FIRST!
You sound very jaded and hurt. You might not be ready for any relationship for a while. Don't beat up a good guy, because some jerk hurt you before. It takes a LONG time to get over a broken heart.
Take each person as a new beginning, but YOU learn from your mistakes.
2006-11-15 09:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good on you for being secure enough to say no until you are ready
number one rule is ALL men want some nooky at some stage. it's just that some are more genuine than others and are really into the woman, so are truly prepared to wait and make love as apposed to just getting a bonk
how do you know if he's genuine? go with your instincts and do what you're doing already, go slow and check for signs of his sincerity, like does he get pushy, does he have other women phoning him, does he make excuses for things that seem suspicious
if he's the real deal he'll wait for as long as is necessary, coz love isn't just about sex. it's the whole package and communication and connecting are much more important than just the physical side of a relationship
2006-11-15 09:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how else is a guy going to get to know you, other than trying to spend time with you.
Sure, he's a guy, and he'd really like to get some nooky from you. If you don't wait, then the relationship on his side may never develop any further than just sexual. Go ahead and spend time with him, and allow the relationship to develop. You have to risk getting burned, if you are ever to have a relationship at all.
2006-11-15 09:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno women?!? You get a guy who is horrible to you and you love'em without doubt.. and when you get a guy who shows you good attention you worry..don't be so cynical but use your common sense.
Only you can really tell what this guy is like as you have met him.. it is possible to get guys who do honestly like you enough to spend all there time with you.. make the most of it...just be careful they do not stop all that they are doing to see you. I don't think it is healthy for a person to, male or female, give up all the things they usually do.. cos eventually all they have left is you. what happens when you want to do something on your own/with your friends.. you may have let your friends slip as well as the other person, whilst you have spent all your time together... he could also get jealous easy as he is not used to seeing you off with other people.
Encourage him to do his own stuff and like wise to you.. if it is meant to be then you will both know... and you will get to the next stage.. you'll soon know if all he wants is some hanky panky.
goodluck
2006-11-15 11:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by jimbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds more like he's suffocating you rather than trying to give you one then do a runner. You've already told him you want to take things slowly and yet he's calling you twice a day everyday? And you've only known each other a week? I wouldn't trust him one little bit, but not for the reasons you think! He obviously has no respect for your wishes because despite what you've told him about taking things slowly he's still calling you twice a day! Put your foot down with this one straight away, he sounds abit obsessive.
2006-11-15 09:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Helen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him wait until you are totally comfortable with the act of sleeping with him. He may be totally sincere in saying he'll wait. Just keep in mind that some guys are just looking for another score, and that it could end that way regardless. Make sure he knows that you want to take it slow, and if he's fine with that, take your time. If he's not fine with it, move on.
2006-11-15 09:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Eric B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont blame another guys mistake on this one, each guy is different just go out and have fun you will really be able to tell the difference in his actions within the next couple of dates if he seems to be really touchy and you tell him to stop and he gets fussy than yes he could just want nookie but if he gets really touchy and you tell him no than he may not want any nookie than again if he dont touch you at all than theres a good chance he is waiting on you. Hope this helps best of luck to the both of you.
2006-11-15 09:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That easy just dont give him any.. hang out.. go to the movies.. or whateva your guys do on dates.. when he takes you home.. give him a hug and go in the house period... Dont even talk about banging.. and if he brings it up.. then you know whats up.. and if you feel like you are beginning to want some in the mean time, so you may want to give in sooner then intended... Hook up the shower head ... and do that in the mean time that will hold you over.. until you know what's up
2006-11-15 09:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by dollapassadime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get in a hurry!!! I dated my girl friend for four months before we even talked about taking it to the next level. If he really likes and respects you he will wait.
2006-11-15 09:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by TPowderly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is calling you day and night he wouldnt just want a bit of nooky. why would he bother? he could go and have a one night stand with some girl if he just wanted sex.
sounds a nice guy, get in there girl!!!
2006-11-15 09:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋