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I just got engaged last night, we're planning to get married Spring of 2008, is there anything you could change about the way your wedding went or any advise or suggestions you have for me would be great Thanks!!! YEAH I"M GETTING MARRIED!!

Answer 1

First off...CONGRATULATIONS...isn't it so exciting..well although I am not a married I am in the process of planning a June 2007 wedding and I of course have asked many different people many different questions. And here is what I got from it all and it is the foundation of all my planning.
(1) First of all figure out what is the most important thing to you. Do you want really awesome magazine wedding pictures or would you rather a really great wedding Hollywood dvd or maybe your all about the dress. Like splurge on the things that mean the most to you. If you don't care too much about the food. Then maybe you could get family members to cook and that will save you like a thousand bucks that you could use to hire a better photographer. Like I splurged on my videographer and bought like the most expensive package with most wedding day coverage because that was what is important to me. Some people would rather go with a better photographer because that is whats important to them.

(2) I have heard so many brides say that they wished that had hired a real photographer rather than so and so brothers mommas sister or a professional videographer rather than grandpa. Ya know. Like every 4 out of 5 brides that I have talked to didn't hire a videographer and regreted it.

(3) Also one of my friends said that her engagement and bridal portraits came out amazing but the actual wedding and reception pictures were horrible. So make sure you find somebody good and well-rounded. But also remember expensive isn't necessarily always better.

(4) Bridesmaid dresses....all girls are made differently...find something flattering on everybody...because if there is one thing weird it will show up in your pictures and the whole audience will notice it..just think what if it were you and somebody made you wear something too revealing or too tight or who knows what but just remember that some people may be alot more conservative than you are or maybe alot less in some cases...

(5) Also flowergirl and ringbearer...if you think that they might not be able to handle the job...maybe they are too young chances are...they won't! think about that...

(6) And remember...this is YOUR day! You have probably dreamed about this moment your whole life. Don't let anybody try to change your mind about anything that you want to do. Unless of course they are paying...haha:) j/k...have fun with it though...don't stress out about anything...everything will fall into place...I am getting married in 7 months and don't even have a church yet..but I'm not worried...it will all work out...

some really good websites that I tend to look at everyday and find really helpful are weddingchannel.com (you can make your own little personal wedding website on here...so cute), bride.com, and theknot.com...all really great...i like wedding channel the most...none of these are very good with the local vendor searches...but maybe thats just becasue I am from Louisiana...

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 2

When I got engaged to my boyfriend of 5 years I felt like I wanted the biggest grandest wedding money could buy. Then every day I picked was not good, where I wanted wasn't good either..and we really didn't have the money for all those things anyway. Then I got to thinking, what do I really want? Did I want a wedding more than a marraige? Definately not. In the end, we had a very small (under $500.) wedding which his parents paid for, his aunt and uncle catered for free as a gift to us, and we had pictures taken by my cousin (which turned out wonderful). Point is, don't stress yourself out trying to plan some grand event for everyone else and you'll barely remember because you were stressing so bad for everything to go right. Ask yourself when you're planning, what's more important? What is going to matter in 1 year, 2 years...?
Besides, think of the down payment you could have for a house of your own together instead of throwing a huge party. And of course, I think weddings are celebrations and should be treated as such..go ahead, throw a big party. But remember you could save yourself some serious cash later if you elope now or whenever and heartache and stress and dissapointment.

Answer 3

No one ever told me this, but it is nice to know. The day of your wedding, don't worry about the little things. Only you will notice, and it's not that big of a deal. No one else will notice, or care for that matter. And if someone does make a big deal about it, they're not a true friend. This is your day, try to make it stress free. Come prepared, have Advil Liquid Gels in arms reach. The worst thing to happen is a headache, it ruins the whole day, so nip it in the bud before it starts take an Advil in the morning, and breathe easy. And if you want a good night sleep the night before, take two Gravol, they help you sleep, and aren't addicting. Congrats on the engagement, hopefully he proposed in a special way, mine didn't and now that's our story. Good luck to you both and have fun with the planning.

Answer 4

First of all CONGRATS! The one thing I'd change is I would have eloped. Both my husband and myself agree on this. We would have went somewhere nice, just he and I. I would have still bought a nice wedding dress and flowers and had my hair and makeup done. Then we'd go to a quiet little chapel and tie the not. Then, for family, we'd just throw a big party. A wedding in itself it just too much work than it's worth.
Oh, if I could pick one more thing, it would be to spend the money on the photographer. Our pictures are awful! The only photo memories of the special day suck. We got married in a beautiful area outside with water and moutains all around. The photographer had no idea what she was doing (my parents got her at a discount), and the background where the mountains were were all washed out. All you could see were me and him. We could have had those done better at JC Penny.
Good luck and remember, no matter how good or bad your wedding day is, it's only one day out of the rest of your lives. The day your first child is born is SO much better than the wedding. :)

Answer 5

Have fun! Don't stress out about the little stuff, because you are gonna end up married either way. It's gonna make it a lot more happy and enjoyable if you just go with the flow and don't get stressed if things don't work exactly how you want them.

I am engaged and we are getting married June of 2007 and so many things have changed already from what I originally wanted. But Either way I will be with my fiancee forever so the little changes really aren't that important in the end

Answer 6

Yay for you!! Personally I would have had a much smaller wedding, immediate family only and spent the rest of the money on a Honeymoon or a starter home. It's less stressfull, you really can't remember everyone being there because of being nervous about everything going just right. I would have had a party or cookout afterwards for my friends if they really felt that I had forgot about them. Don't be too concerned about what others may think of you, just make it a romantic affair that will be special, and everything will fall into place. Be Happy & Congratulations to You on Your Engagement.!

Answer 7

If i was to do it again there are a few changes i would make the top three would be (1) Be selfish have what you want do n't change anything because your family his family or anyone else thinks you should if you want something a certain way a certain colour have it, its your day. and with luck the only wedding day you will have, (2) Do not invite people you do n't want there if you do n't like them leave them at home no matter what your per ants say, it drove me mad on my wedding day having to be all smiles to a couple of aunts i can n't stand and have n't spoken to since.(3)Do n't think you have loads of time to get organized 2007 will be gone in a flash before you know it you will be walking down the isle.
So they are my ideas hope they help CONGRATULATIONS and i hope you both have a long and happy life together.

Answer 8

Well, congratulations on your engagement! That's wonderful news. The only advise I would give for your wedding is to remember, that no matter how crazy everything gets, the wedding is just 1 day, but your marriage will last a lifetime. Keep it all in perspective, and K.I.S.S. which stands for "keep it simple sweetie!" Make sure to tell your finace that you love him every day, and be his best friend. Best of luck to you both! May you both be very happy together!

Answer 9

My husband and I got married last year...a REALLY NICE WEDDING for 9,000. guest list of 200. my biggest suggestions are:
stick to a budget including everything:
her dress and full ensemble
your tux
rings
marriage license
invitations
stamps
food
drinks
cake---make sure it can be delivered....for real.
limo
dj
centerpieces
flowers
pianist (at ceremony)
pew bows
guest book
photographer
videographer
favors

I mean EVERYTHING. don't do your registries until a month before the bridal shower (which is about a month and a half away from the wedding) if you don't chances are the items you registered for could be discontinued. don't listen to anyone about your wedding unless you solicit their advice. keep wedding party small. don't have siblings bf's or gf's in the wedding...just spouses...um that's it i think...
below are websites you can go to that you can have a to-the-date to do list. you know...at one year, this should be done...at 6 months that..

Answer 10

Have a day-of wedding coordinator. Could be a professional or a friend/relative. I was so busy worrying about things I couldn't concentrate on my day.

Ebay, ebay, ebay - you will save lots of money especially for things you won't ever use again.

Have a wedding website. It will have all of your information in one spot.

Pace yourself. Book your spot at least a year in advance - more if it's at a hard to get spot. Don't start planning too soon or you will burn yourself out.