Help! I love my friend dearly but when she orders her food at a restaurant, she has soo many demands! An example: "I'll have the asian salad, no onion, no oranges, extra dressing, extra wontons, tossed and the lettuce extra clean". I find it insulting to the restaurant and demanding and I don't know what to say to her and I don't want to stop eating out with her. PLEASE help! I have lunch with her every Monday and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Thanks!
2006-11-15 09:13:02 · 32 answers · asked by Aunt Andy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-11-18 13:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her about it. Maybe she has a reason. If it's a reason that can be shared, sharing that reason with the wait staff may minimize the effects of how insulted they might feel by this behavior, and you DON'T want insulted waitstaff! They handle your food, after all. For example, I'm a vegetarian and have found that most waitstaff are very polite and accommodating when they know why you're asking about the contents of the soup of the day, for instance.
Otherwise, you could go to buffets, mongolian grills, or salad bars. those are built around people like her. Dont want something? Don't take it.
2006-11-15 10:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a right ti have what she wants. The demands you state are not out of order except the extra clean on the lettuce. Don't say anything and don't be embarrassed
2006-11-15 15:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever watched the movie, "Waiting"? If not, rent it for your friend. It shows what happens in restauants when you cause problems. I have worked in the food industry. I would NEVER send my order back. I would also NEVER be rude to the staff at a restaurant. Maybe your friend will reconsider her excessive changes and requests to staff the next time she is in a restaurant. If she won't watch the movie....rent it yourself and tell her ALL about it.....over lunch. Then state, "I'll never be too fussy in a restaurant again! Not after seeing that!" Good luck!
2006-11-15 09:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Syr 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either go to a place that has a "no subtitutions or special orders" rule, or get used to it. Some people are just picky and will never change.
Restaurants are used to serving their customers what they want. If the server or restaurant has a problem with it, trust me, they will say so. Otherwise they are more interested in serving their customers' needs well.
2006-11-15 09:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a Buffet where she can organize her own food as she likes. Or go to a grocery store, buy the things she likes and let her prepare the meal at your home. She obviously is under the false impression that everything is preped on the spot, so show her that shortcuts are needed.
2006-11-15 09:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might have a reason on why she is so picky with her food maybe she doesnt want to get some kind of paracite in her. maybe you can ask her why and what she is so afraid of. and its really bad to insult a restaurant th at way it gutantees her and your food to be maybe contiminated with saliva,urine,semen,hair, and many other disgusting things so i say do something about it fast because this might affect you and she is really your friend she will agree and maybe you two can go somewhere where the food is prepared in front of you.
2006-11-15 09:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by cosita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop eating out in restaurants. Suggest other venues, such as the park, the cafeteria, etc. where she can pack her lunch in advance and/or not make too much demands.
2006-11-16 01:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesn't know how demanding and demeaning she sounds....maybe make a joke of it..."i'll have the asian salad, with onions, with oranges, regular amount of dressing, regular amount of wontons, and the lettuce extra dirty"....maybe she'll see how ridiculous it sounds....OR....if it embarrasses you that much you can tell her to order for you and then excuse yourself to the restroom
2006-11-16 04:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is little you can do. I have a friend that is exactly like that, so I usually tell them I'm running a bit late and have them order before I get there if it's going to be someplace with a waitstaff. With this friend I try to isolate my lunches with them to places like Burger King or Subway....where they make stuff to your specification anyway. Buffets are also an option.
2006-11-15 09:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by tjjone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try asking her if there's anyplace you can go she won't have to re-write the menu a couple of times. Maybe that will wake her up to how fussy she's being. Or maybe suggest she bring a bag lunch and y'all eat in the park or something?
2006-11-15 10:03:46 · answer #11 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋