I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4yrs now and i almost broke up with him because i let my own thoughts get the best of me and i hurt him and now i think he may but holding his feelings from me now because he doesn't want me to hurt him again. what can i say or do to show him i'm sorry and i how? I want ot make things better. Is it possible now? I'm gong to see him later on tonight, please. i need some answers!
2006-11-15 09:06:55 · 12 answers · asked by NuNu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depending on how much you hurt him, it will take some time. At least you can admit to your wrongdoings. I suggest openly talking to him about it and apologize. Just state what you were thinking, why you were thinking it, and what made you realize you were wrong. Then let him speak and see where it goes from there. If he's a reasonable man he should see where you're coming from and accept your apology (depending on what you did to cause this).
Good luck!
2006-11-15 09:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by mysticaura29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most critical thing to rememver is that you should not do something which is either outside of your personality or if it is something you dont intend to adopt into your personality permanently. Explain your feelings about the situation with him, have a long talk and bring up all the issues, even the ones which may seem insignificant.
I am recently married and my wife and I fight from time to time, but every time we do, I make sure to resolve it and discuss ALL the issues. I can honestly say that I would rather fight on occasion and get these issues out and resolved than to just have each of us keep them buried.
Be open, be honest, he should follow suit.
2006-11-15 17:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Justin L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your really sorry and that you know you hurt him and your willing to do what he wants to make it better again, even if it means giving him his space untill he feels better.
But don't let him take advantage of you. ex; feeling like you have to do every little thing he says do as much as you can and if you can't od something let him know.
2006-11-15 17:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by hopeincubus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your sorry about hurting his feelings and then see what happens! TALK IT OUT!
2006-11-15 17:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by dannie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be yourself and not let your insecurity get you..if he got hurt from you putting your thought straight out..that means hes really commited i dontt think your bf is one of those cheaters..so tonight..get freaky wit it and show him that hes lucky to have you too ;D
2006-11-15 17:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by itstony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters... you have to confront him and convince him verbally you are very very sorry.
Show him you wont do it again [ you have to earn his trust over time.]
And also, A lil random sex wouldnt hurt anyone.
2006-11-15 17:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by mikey_guinto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him tonught that youlove him and say some nice like u look good.and ask him is he mad at u and if he says yes say im sorry and i love u alot
2006-11-15 17:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by skaterboarder zachary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do to immediately lessen the hurt you have to prove yourself over time.
2006-11-15 17:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by TC1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya just tell him your sorry and them give it to him like never before
2006-11-15 17:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by the dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the dude, boys will normally do anything for sex, and girls have the power to change our minds with it.
2006-11-15 17:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋