What if you are scared...of everything and everybody???....what if you are scared that any decision you make now can lead to you getting hurt in the future??? What if you sometimes feel like your fear is stopping you from moving forward with your life??
What would you do? And yes, this all started after my ex left me...
2006-11-15 08:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean there is a guy i really like...but i feel very scared although things are going well...
2006-11-15 09:00:37 · update #1
I know someone that was just like that. You have to realise that pain is part of life. Noone goes through life without experiencing it. Just start out small, do something minor that you wouldn't normally do. Even if it is as simple as flirting, or going to a bar. But start small. Once you conquer that, you can move up to the next step, and do something bigger. Get a friend to go with you on whatever you decide if you are more comfortable, then do it alone the next time. Hope this helps!
2006-11-15 09:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Eric B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must answer from a Christian perspective because I suffered from fear for years. It's not of God, but extremely demonic in nature because it paralyzes you. It keeps you from moving forward and prevents you from having close friends and relationships. Loosing your boyfriend must have been very traumatic...trauma causes all sorts of responses...and triggers different emotions and fear/anxiety is one of them.
I want to encourage you to read the Bible. Go to www.bible.com and read the message translation on God's love, faith and fear. If you're not a born-again Christian, now is the time. You don't need meds, or cutting your skin, positive confessions--but you need the word of God. Words give life or bring death. When you feel fearful, say, "Jesus loves me and his angels have charge over me, why should I fear?"
If your boyfriend left you....it's ok to be sad, but there is someone better out there for you.
[Deut 13:4; Matt 4:10; Luke 4:8] You shall [Or reverence] fear only the LORD your God; and you shall worship Him and [Deut 5:11; 10:20; Ps 63:11; Matt 5:33] swear by His name.
Joshua then said to them, " [Josh 10:8] Do not fear or be dismayed! Be strong and courageous, for thus the LORD will do to all your enemies with whom you fight."
Hope this helps!
2006-11-15 17:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kiki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In order to be loved, you have to be close enough that you can be hurt. It's a package deal. Perhaps you should hold off on a new relationship until you have settled down somewhat and are more confident about yourself. Fear is only a problem if it keeps you from doing what needs to be done. Don't give up because of what happened in your past. Learn from it and grow.
2006-11-15 16:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its normal to feel like that after you have been hurt. Maybe you just need more time. Maybe you need some counseling. Keep in mind that there are no guarantees in life and that if you get hurt again you will recover as you did before. That's what life is all about.
2006-11-15 17:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright , I feel like that sometimes you are so scared you do not know what you will do you start to cry .... just not in front of everyone and i have never been on a date. So go to your school conseler or if your home schooled then just talk to a gronup who either don't care at all or talk to someone who trust or you know what just talk to him that should make you feel at least a little better.
2006-11-15 17:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek professional help. Contact a local mental health center. In many cases the counseling is free or has a small fee (by a sliding scale according to income). Go now, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
2006-11-15 16:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Bean counter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please let me know when you find out... because I have so many doubts about men after getting hurt so much, plus even the guys in my family are being stupid so that puts my confidence in men down more. It's like I know that I'll find "the one" someday, but every once in a while I have this fear that I'm going to end up alone :(
2006-11-15 16:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Panophobia... fear of EVERYTHING. Sweetheart, you can't let a man control who you are. You can take care of yourself and be who you want to be. I was afraid after margarite and I moved from Romania because it was a few years later that she could join me. I was alone with an American family who I didn't know so well. You'll be alright. You can be a strong woman. All of us can. I believe in you.
2006-11-15 16:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Wetawd!!NRR! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray about it. find urself. build up ur self esteem. u control ur own destiny. every one takes a risk every single day. no one is 1000 % sure things will work in their favor. living is nothing to be afraid of if u at least try. trying is how inventions are created. no one knows what they can or can not do if they do not try. being on your own, taking care of urself is an awesome gift. there are plenty of people in the hospital, morge, hospice, half-way house, etc who wish they could do for themselves. ur not a failure. denying urself the opportunity to fail is the enemy of success.
2006-11-15 17:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Vizhen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. Life is unexpected. Enjoy it, but if whatever you are scared of threatens your life or your goals try to avoid it. Fear can be overcomed. Work on it
2006-11-15 17:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Avangelis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋