2006-11-15 08:42:38 · 15 answers · asked by Kym H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just talk to him about it that is something you both need to decide on together....good luck
2006-11-15 08:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean. If that is his wish, you will have to deal with it. Wanting to have or not have kids in a marriage is such a passionate issue for either party. If you didn't want to have kids, you would also be justified in your views. Forcing the issue won't work. You can't force someone to have kids if they don't want to. If you want kids and he doesn't, it can end your marriage if you are sure this is what you want in you future. Didn't you two talk about this before marriage? I am in the same situation with a mixed family and I still don't know if I want more kids since we already have some. But it was already agreed before we married that I did not have to have anymore kids if I didn't want it. It can work for you too, but you will have to agree on it with your husband just so you can both have peace to raise the family you already have together.
2006-11-15 16:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a vasectomy or you have your tubes tied etc, there is always a risk of having another baby as you two to be sexually active with no protection is 100%.
Therefore, you need to discuss the outcomes if you two have another baby due to that risk 10 years down the line. Whether he wants abortion or adoption or keep the baby.
However, will he resent the baby that is unwanted by him?
This should of been talk about before you two got married. If he said he wanted children and now he doesn't, that isn't fair to do that to you nor is it fair to you to do it to him when he told you he didn't want any.
If this becomes a major problem, seek counseling.
2006-11-15 17:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should have been something that was discussed with great length before you two were married. I came into my marrige with children from a previous one...I can't have kids anymore, so my hubby and I had long talks about what were to do...he wanted children of his own. We are now in the process of adopting one of the greatest children in the world....
2006-11-15 17:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realistically, that is something that should have been covered before you got married. My wife and I talked before we got married and decided that neither of us wanted any additional children. About six months after the wedding, she decided she wanted to have another baby. Things do come up.
In our case we sat down and talked about what changed her mind and what could change my mind. Ultimately we decided to give it a try. I believe we tried for about six months and then she changed her mind again....and decided she didn't want another baby. Lucky for us.
You best option is to just sit down and explain to him why you want another child and why he doesn't want another child. Hopefully one of you will make more sense than the other and the decision will be right in front of both of you.
2006-11-15 16:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by tjjone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have discussed this before you got married. But until you both agree on having a child together, there's not much you can do. Don't be too pushy, maybe he'll change his mind eventually.
2006-11-15 16:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your husband. Your kids have been already through enough trauma with all these changing families.
Another kid won't make them feel good for sure.
2006-11-15 21:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by TATAAAAAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should have discussed this, but since you already both had kids coming in, I'd think that would be enough...
2006-11-15 16:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you discuss this before marriage? If you did and he said no and you just thought that he might change his mind, that was the wrong thing to do.
2006-11-16 08:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Top 3 causes of divorce in the US...
Money
Inlaws
Kids
Your well on your way to joining the club
2006-11-15 17:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your out of luck. That is something you should have discussed before getting married
2006-11-15 16:56:58 · answer #11 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋